Letting go of grudges: the unknown tension between my cousin and I

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I could feel it. It was like this negative energy coming from him. First, when they got to the house I greeted his mom and then him next but he didn't even reply to me, he didn't even look at me, not only that but he also talked to my siblings normally but didn't say a single word to me.

I was sitting in the parlor with my mom and my aunt who visited with her son Jerry watching TV as they both discussed. I wasn't paying attention to the details of what they talked about. I was not even steadily focused on the wildlife show that was showing, because I was wondering why Jerry snubbed and ignored me. I and Jerry were never really very close but at least we were not enemies.

After some time in the parlor, I moved to the bedroom where Jerry and my siblings were. They were talking when I got into the room, my sister was sitting on my brother's bed operating her phone, while my brother sat on the floor close to the bed talking with Jerry who was sitting on the study chair. Immediately I sat down to pitch in the discussion Jerry's mood changed, and his smile and laughter quickly changed to a straight face.
"I need to go and ask my mom about something before I forget," Jerry said as he stood up and left the room to the parlor.

I knew there was something wrong but I just couldn't place my hands on it. I didn't know if anyone noticed but I am a quiet and observant person so I was sure to notice the tension.
To find out if truly he left the room because I came in, I left to go to the parlor as if I wanted to get something. Not up to two minutes that I was pretending to search for something before he got up and went back into my brother's room where my sister and brother were.

Now I was sure about the tension and stayed in the parlor. My sister came out of the room and went out to buy snacks and I followed her.
As we walked along the street I decided to ask her if she noticed what I noticed, "Nora did you notice that Jerry seems to be keeping some kind of malice against me," I asked my sister.
"No, I didn't. Do you think he is?" she replied.
" I don't just think he is, I know he is," I answered her, and since she was both our senior—Jerry and I were age mates, I decided it was best if she asked him what it was all about.
"Well, when we return you can ask him if he has anything against me because I don't know what it is about,"
" Okay, I will, "
We bought the snacks and went back to the house, my sister went back to the room where the others were and I remained in the parlor. My mom asked me why I wasn't with the rest and I told her that I wanted to watch the show and didn't want to miss anyone.

Some hours later their stay was over and they said their goodbyes and left.
Then I went to my sister and asked her if she found out what it was about. She said she did and he told her that it was about the fight we had the previous year when we all met in the village during holidays with my other cousins. Then I remembered what was the problem all along, during the holidays of the previous year we fought about our phone chargers, we had the same chargers and when he lost his own he tried claiming mine. It caused a serious argument that led to altercations and a fight before it was later resolved by my uncle and I still got to keep my charger although he still believed it was his.
It was shocking and funny to me because the whole incident was water under the bridge for me while he still couldn't let it go.

Well later on he forgot about it and we became good again. It was just a little difference between us, I was the type who forgot about grudges easily, and he was the type who took more time to let go of a grudge.

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When we were younger, we took a lot of things too seriously but as we grew, we realised that we were just been childish and let go those grudges.

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Growing up teaches us the importance of perspective, it is relieving to let go old grudges and live in the present.

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What a mystery you had to solve. People do remember different things, and take different things to heart. It's great that he eventually got over his grudge. You did a nice job of using narrative, dialogue and action to tell your story.

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Thanks for the kind and thoughtful feedback. I am glad you found the elements of my story good.

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Just imagine😂
I’m sorry for laughing 😂
This is why I don’t even keep such friends because as blunt and the overthinker that I am, this kind of attitude will just worry me a lot.

Passed through this morning from dreemport as a #dreemerforlife

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I understand where you're coming from! It's important to surround ourselves with friends who align with our values and support our well-being. Being an overthinker myself, I totally get how certain attitudes can affect us. Here's to finding friends who bring positivity and understanding into our lives! #PositiveVibesOnly 💫

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Some people are like that. They can hold on to grudges like forever. I hope he will finally get to let it go as well.

Thank you for sharing.

#dreemerforlife

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It's true, some grudges seem to last a lifetime. I am glad he found peace and let it go. Thanks for your insight!

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When I saw the title of your post with the cover picture with an axe, I was like "what's going on here". Lol.

Thank you for this piece.

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Haha, I'm glad the title and cover intrigued you! Sometimes it's fun to spark curiosity. Thank you for giving it a read, and I'm delighted you enjoyed it. Stay curious! 😄

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Hahaha. I will stay curious always. Thank you

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To be fair i can see why as a child he might hold onto the grudge longer if he felt you had his charger. But luckily all childhood grudges are normal and all get resolved. I worry when i see similar grudges happen among adults, especially fighting over chargers :)

Thanks for sharing this slice from your childhood. Very well written, i could visualize the whole encounter in my mind.

Cheers from a fellow #dreemerforlife

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Absolutely, childhood grudges can seem monumental at the time but often fade with age. It's funny how something as simple as a charger can spark such feelings! Glad you enjoyed the story, and cheers to letting go of both childhood and adult grudges.

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At least he later forgot about the incident. It's quite funny that he was ignoring you because of a fight over phone chargers. But then again that's what kids do.

#dreemerforlife

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Indeed, kids can get caught up in the silliest things! It's a relief he eventually forgot about it. Thanks for your comment, and here's to the amusing memories that make us smile.

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I mean as your cousin, I expected that he would have known better not to keep grudges with a relative, but yeah, sometimes someone can be mad at us only for you to realize it's grudge being held from a long time ago.

Happy it's all over now though.🌺

#dreemerforlife

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