Friendship; A Treasure or a Tread Sore?

Recently, I have become more grateful for the gift of friendships, for the gift of being surrounded by like minds, for having people who have my back during each life's highs and lows, for people who keep my secret in a safe place in their heads and empty it not, at the slightest disagreement or rift.

As a girl who grew up with parents who don't keep anyone too close because of past events that have taught them bitter lessons, it kind of indirectly made me feel uninterested in seeing the need to have, let alone keeping friends around me. And, no matter how much I tried to break free from the belief etched in Dad's sayings, "People can either be a blessing or a curse in your life, keep them around but don't keep them too close", "Make them feel they know everything about you when in the actual sense, they know nothing about you".
Consequently, I have unconsciously, over the years, imbibed and internalized these beliefs into my reality to the extent that I do not need to force myself to remember them because it had now become part and parcel of me.
Despite my invulnerability in friendship, relationships, and other SHIP(s), have recently been lucky to have crossed paths with people who accepted just the way I am, people I don't need to explain myself excessively to because they know what exactly is going through an over-thinker mind like mine, people who wanna see me to progress and are not insecure about me reaching the ladder of success before they do. I can go on and on, telling you about how fortunate I feel about being encircled by their kind, but that wouldn't benefit you as much as sharing how I attracted them, so let's discuss that going forward.

Be the kind of friend you want other people to be to you.

We all have qualities or traits we look after in people especially those who we want to confer the title of friend " on. However, as much as you want them to possess all those good attributes, you should also embody them too, so it isn't a case of "wanting others to be to you, what you can't be to them*".
Friendship is a gift and treasure every human should possess but if friendship is the opposite to you, you
should consider trying to be the kind of friend you're praying for in other people's lives.

A few months ago, during the middle of a conversation with a friend, she said, and I quote, "Thank you for being a good friend. " Oh well! That statement did sound sweet to my ears but also left me dumbfounded at the same time because after a so-called friend said to my face, "Dorcas, you're a wicked person ", I never knew a day would come when the tagged "wicked person " will be called "a good friend "by another ".

Every friendship has its good days and bad days, and every day is a test of how strong the bond is.

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