Do We Choose Friends, or Do They Choose Us for What We Offer?

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I be honest with myself this time around maybe you get to know a little about me i am not the best when it get to relate or talk to people I don't really know how to approach someone Hey would you be my friend I think this has to do with childhood dilemma while growing up I have always been kept separate from the world my mum never allowed me to play with other Children in our street, I have always been kept safe to me I felt she is been hatsh on me but to her it was a messed up world then she is only trying to keep me safe.

Well this side of me has always been till I grew up she still act that way as time goes I tried to fight back this affected me during my secondary school I remember when I enrolled into a new school I kept my distance from everyone I don't really know how to make friends or play I just stay on my own the prompt got me thinking do we choose our friend or circumstances choose them for us it really a hard take on what to say here cause back to my story when they see what I am and my goodies I brought for lunch they tried approaching me but I still keep my distance from then eventually we got hooked up and move together but as time goes I learnt they were after my goodies I do bring to school each day no one really wanted to be friends with me they always after what I did offer for launch those kind of friends would I say circumstances choose bring them over?

Anyway I cut ties with them on the long run and as time goes by I met some people I approached them we eventually became friends and I noticed they after what I have those and not ready to be friend they make fun of me whenever we having fun like cruising am always the center of attraction which indont like maybe because I don't know how to communicate cause that am not good well with that it what it is I had to cut ties not because they make me their center of attraction cause they just want what I have so it now likes back to the authors words Do we choose friends

That from the two aspect I see it well if am to decided I go back with my first option let circumstances tell when you meet the right friends am tired of friends who only after what you offer and not the friendship anyway that's my summary on it.

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I think a few times it’s a two way street. But mostly, we choose our friends because even if circumstances seem to have chosen our friends for us, we are still the ones that decides whether or not to groom that friendship.

Sorry you have been a victim of having bad friendships for a long time. Like you said, though your mum had a good intention to keep you safe, that might have been part of the reasons why it is hard for you to approach people who you will like to be friends with but it’s fine anyways. You can always start now. We learn everyday.

Thank you for the birthday wish! And happy birthday to you too @jmis101. ❤️

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I will be dropping my entry soon.
And truly I understand the point you made which is true.

Awwnn
Thank you very much for the big shout-out
Happy birthday too @hopestylist I never knew we were birthday mates😂

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Damnnnnnnnnnn.... that's shitty

So all the groups of friends you've had are only after what you can offer.
I've been in such situations but I still have great friends though.

Your childhood story is just the same as mine to be honest. Always indoors 😁
Thanks for the tag....I never such a wonderful community existed.

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Happy birthday @jmis101 🎉🎉🎉
More HBDs in your wallet 😁

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I love this birthday wish🥰🥰
Thank you very much dear

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Most times our parents have the motive of protecting us but probably we went too far under that protection that it gets to affect us associating and connecting with people when we are suppose to. So I really get your point and understood what you went through.

Thank God that I'm not after your goodies, it is 1900HBD me I want 🤪😁

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This is so touching, especially your honesty about your childhood.

True friendship goes deeper, and indeed, it is not about who stays when they tend to gain from you, but about who stays even when you have nothing to offer.

Thanks for sharing.
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