Life After the Good Old Days

This afternoon, as I was lying quietly on my bed, my thoughts drifted back to my school days, even though it hasn't been that long. I remembered the times I spent with friends—how we saw each other often, studied together, completed assignments, and shared endless jokes. Those moments felt good and full of connection. But now, months have passed, and I haven’t heard from many of the people I once called close friends. Well, I suppose that’s part of life after school. Everyone moves on, faces their own challenges, and tries to find their way. However, it's not anyone’s fault, it’s simply the reality of growing up and stepping into the world beyond the classroom.

After school, life demands a lot from people. Some friends may choose to leave home in search of work, not wanting to depend entirely on their parents. Others may be dealing with personal struggles, facing different challenges we might not even be aware of. So when someone doesn’t reach out, it isn’t always about forgetting or abandoning friendship. Instead of reacting with anger or disappointment, perhaps the better approach is to ask, “How are you doing?” or “What have you been up to?” These questions show care and understanding, rather than judgment.

I’ve also noticed that some people start reconnecting with statements like, “You just forgot me," just like the majority of people used to say in my country here. Honestly, that kind of approach can make me feel off from making a quality conversation. Though some people might see it as a joke, there are gentler and more thoughtful ways to rekindle a conversation and reconnect after months or years of not hearing from each other. So as life is pulling people in different directions, we have to learn how to embrace change and learn how to reconnect with care. Sometimes, all it takes is "How have you been?" That's simple, right? but we still find it hard to do at times. Choosing care over judgment allows us to move through this life with peace.

Change is constant.

Life has different ways of teaching us that nothing lasts forever; everything has a season. Just like friendship, we might not have the opportunity to speak, see, or do anything with them again, just like you used to do before. The truth is that everyone is navigating different paths. We have different struggles, different responsibilities, and different dreams. Just like friendships drift away, the same happens with other things in life. We have to accept that it's okay when plans fall through and when things don't work out the way they should.

^{Thanks for stopping by. I’d love to know your thoughts on this. What has your experience been with keeping friendships? Have you been able to stay in touch, or have you lost contact with some of them?}

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