Why Some Good People Are Always Taken For Granted.

Sometimes when I sit to think, I often thought being good is a curse. I mean it, am not talking about the type of curse we fast and pray to break, I meant the quiet ones, those one's that always find there way into everything and every relationship you are in, even if you have been betrayed before, you still don't take it out on other people.... Is it not a curse...

I was just sitted here and the thought won't stop coning in, that's the kind of person I am, there are time's I do tell myself not to go certain length for people anymore, not to do beyond or go to the extreme for them, but someway, somehow I do find myself still being my good self..I check in on people, wish them on their birthdays, send long messages, forgive, assist, help and even still love without holding back.

Am just so confused let me say, cause at the end of the day, most of this people are the ones who offend me, they are the ones who distanced self from me, I still take my time to continue being the good person I was, but still I get ignored, walked over and forgotten. Good people are often taken for granted, while people think they are just too weak to handle certain things, they on the other hand are just being them, to them, strength looks so soft.

I’ve seen how in certain families, the most responsible child becomes the most ignored and the least appreciated. Maybe it's just because certain people believe some people are a thing to be used, some you are very cool with just distance themselves so suddenly, and you kept wondering why....good people are often taken for granted maybe because they believe anytime you reach out to them back, you will always be available and not hold anything against them, maybe just probably apologize casually.

Most time's, people think people like us don't have boundaries, maybe we are a dirt bin and that we accept anything, everything can be thrown on us and we won't mind. But the truth is, we have boundaries and we have good hearts. We get hurt too, it affects us as well, when we are tired and hurting, we still bring out joy and smile, our hearts are so free and that kind of heart is rare, cool and at the same time.. dangerous.

We never complain, we don't seem to be hurt, we try to be available, we do almost everything, but the world, people, they handle it differently, they take it for granted, but the moment you stop certain things, the moment you view their status and saw they are hurt, passing through a phase and decided not to reach out to them, they tag you heartless, they forgot those times they have been the one ignoring you.

The thing is, they would even call you names and claim you were never a good person before, why will you change, you were a bad person all along, all those times you did not complain, all those times they just respond as if they were forced,...all of those times, did they forget?

Now, when you finally speak out, they act like you shouldn't have reacted, they act shocked and feel somehow, it is then that they do realize how they've wronged you, that time wjrm you are gone is when they know try to reach out to you, also, maybe cause most of these good people aren't always popular and wealthy, and when later they happen to succeed you will start seeing messages up and down, what is that then, they care less about you, they know what they are after.

In Nigeria, we romanticize resilience too much, if we are treated bad, we are asked to still stay, we are asked to remain loyal. But, isn't that slavery in disguise? Society rarely teaches us how to handle soft people. We’re taught to desire strength, to be soft, sincere and all, but most times all these things often affects us, a good person walks into your life and the next thing to do is to start ignoring and snubbing him, when you haven't seen him/her as a threat to anything. We doubt, push away, test and stretch good people too much, maybe we thought they can't break. But then, we do too.

The world we are in don't care about you being a good person, the more you give the less you get, more like a lonely journey, not that we are expecting much, but at least, you should know we bleed to. And the saddest part is, when you finally walk away, people will tag you “changed" not realizing they are the reason you had to change. We are all humans too, good people are humans too, we are not angels, we deserve rest, recognition, and reciprocity.

I really wish I could pen my mind down very well in words, but am not feeling too good, just thought to share it the little way I can, and maybe next time, I will do better, but the my point is, when you meet a good person, don't pocket their peace, don't take them for granted, don't turn their kindness into background noise, love them too, keep them, because at the end of the day, when they finally go silent, you would definitely feel it.

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