The Unspoken Truth.

Well, sincerely, not everybody actually tells a lie. They just choose not to say the whole truth. So, what do they do? They give you some pieces of a story and leave out certain parts of the story; most of the time, the parts they leave out are the ones that might probably change your understanding of them or the situation. Of which you will agree with me that those parts left out are actually the most important.

This topic reminded me of a close friend of mine who had a crush on her boss. Her boss isn't married, but he has a girlfriend/fiancée. So, it happened that they had a small get-together at their boss's house, and she went. When she returned, she told me of the things that happened there...how she tried a new drink, what she ate, how are boss had praised her and all, but then, she left out a part, and what part is that? The part where her boss girlfriend has noticed her going up and down with her fiancé and has called her and speak some senses into her.

First off, I had believed her own version, which obviously wasn't a lie, but then it wasn't the whole truth either. But when I eventually got to know the whole truth, it wasn't as if it surprised me, but then it made me kind of question the picture she had painted for me before.

Lies of omission most times do look harmless. And of a truth we can't really say they lied, and when the full truth finally comes out, that's what they would say; they will say they didn't lie, they just didn't mention that part you later got to know. And maybe unknowingly, what they make us imagine at times is more powerful than reality.

Also, there are times that omissions are done with very good intentions. A lot of times parents hide certain truths to protect their kids; there are times even friends tell us certain things and omit some part just to keep our feelings safe. Some of these omissions are done at times with good intentions. But then, when it later gets revealed, it at times breaks more than even lying in the first place.

I have had a lot of experiences with things like this, and I can tell you that these lies of omission are far more dangerous than lying outright. Because when told, we believe and hold onto it as the truth, and nothing can really make us question it until the full truth is revealed. And when the full truth comes out, you can't still say it was a lie; it was not just the whole truth, and that itself is capable of breaking trust, relationships, and such because it is betrayal wrapped in honesty.

Also, omitting truths can be a habit, a habit in the sense that you either make use of it in protecting yourself or to manipulate certain situations. But then, you need to look at yourself first. Is it present? Is there a sign of it lurking somewhere in you? Take your time to find out and ask if you are leaving out anything important from your discussions and such, and if you notice it in someone, pause and ask yourself if you are really relying on and trusting someone who may not be telling the whole story.

The full truth, even when it's hard, is better than a half-truth. Why? Because that which is left unsaid can affect and hurt deeper than that which is said.

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