The Art Of Maintaining Distance.

Well, just like anybody will at the end of the year, I find myself doing that too, thinking about the various people in my life, there are some that we still communicate, some we see almost everyday but we've gone distant, some we hardly see, some we've never seen each other but we talk as if.....and there are time I do feel like cutting away some.

But then, it's kinda hard for me😁, and I have my reasons. One is most of those who we've gone distant still reach out to me once in a while. Take for example, I have a friend since secondary school who we hardly talk, she's messaged me about 3 to 3 times this year, and it's all about her ex and a friend of mine who won't stop disturbing her. I feel it's not as if she doesn't have anyone else she could talk too, but she just chooses me, I also have this friend of mine who we hardly talk, but anytime she makes a mistake or she does something odd or something bad happens to her and even when it's a good thing, I'm the one she would call, talk too, confide in and all. How convenient is it for someone like me who most people feel safe with to now cut them off.

I understand how people may be, but then I'm not the type to actually cut off people completely, what I do is to give distance. When your energy no longer matches, when we no longer vibe or when I began noticing certain things, I just maintain distance.

Another reason why I don't cut people off is because I've seen and experienced a lot in life and I've come to see how funny things and situations may be at times. The person you think isn't or can't be of help today might be the one who helps you, or link you to someone who can help you tomorrow. So, instead of me to cut people off, I just keep a safe distance with them, I check in on them when needed and still maintain that space. I just make sure that in whatever, they are still within arms length, because they may be in a position to help me tomorrow and by then, I won't feel bad or awkward reaching out to them. It's not as if I ain't working or aiming to be big too, but then, this is life.

Not cutting off people doesn't mean I won't be meeting new ones, no, I will definitely meet with new ones. New people come with newness. I'm not the type to really keep much friends, I take my time to actually decide if you should be one, or remain a colleague or just find a spot for you. So, I would be maintaining my distance while keeping the door open for new ones.

I would have cite examples and all, but I won't want to bore you all with long talks. I've seen, heard and even experienced a lot, so I know that, the fact that someone feels unimportant today does not mean they will be unimportant tomorrow. I'm not saying it's bad to cut people off, it's not just so much my thing, it's alright if you cut me off,I really do not mind. But keep in mind that life can happen. And I might be in a position to stretch out my hand tomorrow to help you, and vice versa.

Seasons greetings To Y'all 🎄

Happy New Year 🎊

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