Even Though They (Women) Meant Well, It (Love) sometimes Feels Like Pressure.

I have always believed relationships to be important and should be one built on honesty, communications and understanding. But atimes, there are still some habits that women do/have that I personally find to be irritating, most of those habits are just part of their nature as "women".

While growing up, there ate a lot of things we learnt, and one if it is to value and respect togetherness, that's why its always somehow when casual conversations atimes leads to some form of interrogation. There was a time I watched a movie and I decided to share my thought while drinking my oranges, only to be met with uncountable questions that felt like I was being pressured to reveal more than I wished to, or that felt like I was being bias or somehow with my opinion.

These kind of moments can just be that she's just being caring or craving some sort of attention or want some more conversation, but it can come as being invasive and it will definitely make me retreat into silence, also, there are times my quiet nature is being misinterpreted as disinterest rather than a need for personal space.

Another thing that bothers me is the expectation that I should always be attentive to every little detail, I don't understand, am I being evaluated. Am so filled, I mean, with the way things are in the country, men are filled with responsibilities and various challenges, there are a lot of things going on in their head and you still want them to do every little thing for you..common, I simply cannot match every spoken and unspoken expectation, and this misunderstanding often leads to a sense of inadequacy, even when I know deep down that my intentions are genuine and heartfelt.

Also, I noticed that my preference for honest, straightforward and calm discussions is occasionally taken as a sign of indifference, rather than seen as the quiet determination to think before I speak. And, sincerely this misinterpretation hurts, as it overlooks the depth of thought and feeling behind every pause.

Also, there are times that simple personal choices, such as my dressing style or approach to social gatherings, are being received wrongly, and that do create some sort of feeling, like am always being measured against an ideal standard. It seems as though every choice I make is bring examined, leaving me to wonder if my true self is ever truly accepted.

Also, I am sharing all these not to cast/shift blames but in the hope that by speaking honestly about these things, both sides will come to know and understand each other more, so that the lady will know its not as if the guy does not love, its just that the situation of things has made him look as if he does not, he's too loaded with responsibilities and expectations, he has no one to run to, he just have to find his way around it, and their comes his partner again acting as if she's the weapon fashioned against him....that's just a joke though, but both sides should come to understand the value of patience and open communication.

I recognize that every individual has habits, traits and peculiarities and that all these little acts are most times intentional/unintentional expression of love and concern, however, when they get too much and accumulate, they can feel like small annoyances that slowly erode the comfort of being together. We should also note that progress in any relationship requires effort from both parties to bridge these gaps, and instead of letting these habits eat deeper into us thereby leading to deeper grievances, we should just pause to think and review it and see them as opportunities to learn more about one another.

We should learn to embrace our differences instead of faulting them, it will definitely lead to stronger and more heartfelt connections.

There are still more things I would have said, things I am probably going through also, but I just think to respect her opinion also, and also I think I have captured most if it in this, that's just the best way to see it, we all have faults, we just need to just stick together while understanding each other, and I hope with these little we might all find a bit more empathy and understanding in our daily interactions and relationships, which should lead to a more nurtured and harmonious space for love and genuine connection.

Note that....every challenge teaches us lessons, and even small acts of annoyances,irritabilities and grievances should rather lead us to grow through understanding one another and have very clear dialogue/communication.

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