Double Dating

Another week another prompt, hmm this is a very interesting topic. I'm so excited already, not just because I get to say my opinion but because I get to read other Hivers input on this very topic because this table is about to be shaken. well without further ado let's dive a bit into what a relationship is.
Relationship is a very important and crucial aspect of man.

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Infact humans are naturally wired to want some form of connection, and this connection translates into a relationship. We desire to love and be loved. A healthy relationship leads to a mental, emotional and psychological well-being. These are some major determinants to a healthy life and stable society. Relationships can be platonic or intimate, intimacy in a relationship involves physical, emotional and psychological attachment towards a partner having a strong connection and vulnerability towards each other. Intimacy is necessary for procreation. Everyone gets to a point where they feel they are ready to enter a relationship, maybe because they think they are old enough, have money, own a house or are financially stable. As important as these things are, they are only secondary compared to the primary qualities everyone ought to possess before even contemplating on entering a relationship. Some of these qualities are:

God fearing

Honesty and transparency

Teacheability

Having a sense of direction

Knowing and discovering purpose

Personal hygiene

Communication skills

The list can go on and on, but here are a few of them.

lt is at the point of entering a relationship that the concept of dating is initiated. These suggests that both parties get to know themselves, their likes and dislikes, their areas of interest and passions and also religious beliefs. This is a stage where both parties test their compatibility and if they're willing to spend the rest of their lives together.

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A lot of individuals enter a relationship just because they feel like they are matured enough and that they have the physical and material qualities to enter a relationship, but in reality the true template to measure ones readiness to enter a relationship is beyond that, we must possess certain qualities and traits, which I have stated above. The following are reasons why I think double dating is wrong.

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Double dating is wrong, this shouldn't even be a topic of controversy. Double dating simply suggests a situation where an individual is secretly dating two or more women or men as the case may be. This in itself is already a sign of dishonesty which negates one of the qualities stated earlier in this discourse. Dishonesty leads to deceit and broken trust.

Double dating is fueled by lust, discontentment and one's fleshy desires to explore whatever immoral fantasy they have disguised as "testing the waters" as some do say, that it is wise to have more than one partner Incase the other one doesn't work out. The question is why will it not work out in the first place if not that their hearts and intents are corrupted from the onset. There's no intention to commit to the person. This will lead to emotional damage, bitterness and anger. One party will feel misled and deceived.

Heartbreak is an unfortunate reality that could happen to anyone, but then it shouldn't be the reason for double dating. Yes it is painful to give your all to someone and later find out that your partner is cheating, this can be mentally stressful, knowing that you wasted your time and energy, investing in a relationship that was all a lie.

ln conclusion, I strongly believe anybody who has truly found purpose, knows their self worth and has restraints (boundaries), is focused and has a sense of direction will be too busy to even consider double dating because he or she is focused and knows what they want, so they will go for what they want.

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