Relationship out of boredom

In one way or the other, we've all experienced boredom, and some are experiencing it now. Those who haven't experienced it will surely hit it one day, no matter how busy they are. As for me, at the level I am now, I feel it’s strange whenever people say they're experiencing boredom, but that strange feeling usually gets knocked off whenever I remember that everyone must experience it. This is because my life currently is so choked up with various activities that I barely have me-time.

Have I experienced boredom and what were the stupid things I did?

Yes, I experienced chronic boredom immediately after I was done with school. I decided not to travel back home; instead, I would use the period to search for a job, get employed, and work while waiting for my NYSC call-up. All my friends travelled, everyone in my lodge travelled for the holiday, so it was just me and me alone in the compound. The only thing that was taking me out of the house was church services, which were on Sundays and Wednesdays. I got tired of going out to search for a job because the offers I saw came with low salaries. So I was just home—eating, sleeping, watching movies, scrolling through social media, and the last one, forcing a relationship.

Yes oooh! Boredom made me force a relationship that was long gone, and it dealt with me crazily!

You know the saying that “an idle mind is the devil's workshop”? That saying practically came to play in my life; the devil decided to open a workshop in my mind where I was stuck forcing a relationship.

I would call this girl and beg her to pick my calls. It's not like I was disturbing her with calls—no, I was being moderate with it, but all my calls and messages became a burden to her. Normally, I ought to have opted out of the relationship, but because I was so lonely, occupied with thoughts of her always, I couldn't leave her to be.

Reflecting on those days while writing this, I can boldly say that I was a fool then, and I can’t see that kind of thing happening to me now, no matter how bored I could be, which I think I can’t even get these days.

After some months of suffering heartbreak due to her nonchalant attitude towards what we agreed to build (the relationship), we ended it, and I felt the pain even more, but after a while, I was freed.

Have I mastered how to fight boredom?

The only way to fight boredom is to get engaged in activities—either work or leisure activities. In fact, a low-income earner does not need to be encouraged to get engaged in finding money; the need will naturally push them, and one would get busy with work.

These days, I can't even find time to watch movies as I planned earlier this year as a way of relieving myself of stress. So with this lack of chance, where does boredom see to crawl in? There's no space at all. These days, if I have interest in someone and the person is trying to give me difficulties, I will just walk out of the scene peacefully. It’s someone who is not busy that will be forcing a relationship or love.

Thanks for reading

This is my entry to Week 194, Edition 01 of the Weekly Featured contest in Hive Learners Community

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