Ghosting

When it comes to ghosting someone, I take part in it very well and I don't feel bad about it as people preach about making friends and making peace always. To me, ghosting is not malice per se, it's a part of finding peace in life and reducing "see-finish."

To me, ghosting is a natural way of life for people on this earth. One does it to someone and one also experiences it from someone. Life doesn't have a manual but when you understand some basic approaches to life, life becomes simple. When someone ghosts me, I don't stress it, I don't go around begging for validation, especially when I know that I didn't do anything wrong, at least at my end. I’ll take it as life happening, and in the same way, I expect people I ghost to accept life that way.

I have had many reasons to ghost people and the one that happens every now and then is when people have the entitlement mentality of expecting someone to check on them always, and they'll go ahead to query your life out whenever they see you around, either by physical presence or online. That thing sucks! It may appear as if I'm walking in a negative path but I have seen a lot from this experience, and once I notice that someone is having that entitlement mentality, I will quickly shift away because life is hard itself to be queried every now and then.

I had this lady in our church and we were very close. She had the habit of lamenting always about how people did not check up on her anytime she traveled, which usually lasted barely two weeks. She didn't just say that, but she said it while expecting some names in our group (which are the leaders in our group) to always check up on her, and each of those moments, she picked hatred towards the people whom she expected to check on her but who didn’t. And she didn’t end there; she speculated news about these people just because they didn’t check on her. Meanwhile, these leaders she expected to check on her are family people, and for sure, they have bigger responsibilities in life compared to us, but this lady just didn’t want to understand all my convincing explanations, trying to tell her to cut down her entitlement mentality. But no, that was her lifestyle. Okay, convincing her to stop and accommodating her unnecessary grudges against her 'enemies' were manageable until she did that to me and seriously took it personal just because I decided to appear less online(didn't check on her for a while).

"This one you’re always wanting to fall sick or have an issue just to have reasons for people to check on you, what if you die in the process of the issue?" This was my usual question to such people, and on that day she was querying me for not checking on her, and I sent her the message. She got angry.

We remained intact with little chats in between, but I noticed that she started developing some of her usual unnecessary grudges towards my posts. I just unsaved her number to be at peace. Life is too hard for someone to add more difficulties to it. That was it, I peacefully ghosted her and my life has been at peace.

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