Dating And Marrying To Divorce

Greetings!

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The world is moving so fast in every aspect, and if one decides to adopt an "I don't care" attitude toward the speed at which everything is advancing, such a person may wake up one day to find themselves stuck in a position they wouldn't like.

Some years ago—around four to five years back—I, along with a group of friends (specifically from my church), attended a wedding in a neighboring town. On our way back, a discussion about marriage broke out in the vehicle. To my surprise, a lady my age, who was about to get married in a few weeks, said she had already put certain plans in place in case of a divorce because she wouldn’t want to suffer or go through hardship if it ever happened.

"Haaaaa! Is it not a pastor you're about to marry?" I exclaimed in shock without realizing it.

"Hehehe! Look at you! It seems you're not keeping up with what’s happening in the world. My dear, anything can happen, and most times, if a divorce happens, it’s the wife that suffers the most," she responded with laughter.

I couldn't fathom everything she said because this was a lady either my exact age or possibly younger. It seemed I hadn't been following the world’s trends closely.

Okay, planning that for marriage is a bit fair, what about planning that on a relationship level?

My Take on prenuptial agreements

As much as I strongly believe in integrity and honesty—which are supposed to be the foundation of love in a relationship and should discourage acts that lead to divorce or create a double-minded attitude between partners—the world has truly taken a new turn from how things used to be.

In the past, love was enough to build a home, but these days, love makes up only about 1% of it. Today, couples can take offense at the slightest issue and decide to end their marriage. This has fueled the current trend of divorce, where it is now seen as a norm rather than a serious matter. In fact, marriage today often seems to be entered into with divorce already in view.

Now, I know it may sound as if I don't believe in love. Of course, I do! In fact, I am a deep lover at heart when it comes to relationships. However, I am simply stating the reality of the world we currently live in.

The Concept of "Divorce Planning" Before Marriage

As for making such an agreement during the dating stage, I see it as too forward-thinking. Although the world has now turned dating into a "mini marriage"—where almost everything that happens in actual marriage is already involved—especially when we look at how many prominent and famous footballers are choosing long-term relationships over legal marriage due to concerns like this, I still find it odd to put such agreements in place while dating.

Well, it may seem reasonable to many people, but in my part of the world, such a mindset is not yet widely accepted. A couple—or a man and a woman—can only strike such an agreement within the framework of marriage, not while dating. Anything aside from this is a big NO for me. I simply can’t do it!

Thanks for reading.

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