Had To End It

Relationship is a word that is all about our interactions with one another. Relationships must not be only romantic in nature; we can relate to our siblings, parents, and friends.

Growing up, I had this mindset that relationships had to be with the opposite gender. With time, I have discovered that it's not only with the opposite gender.

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This mindset was totally erased when I got admission to the university. It was a different world entirely. It was quite shocking at first😮. I had never seen so many young people in one place, living the best of their lives without the supervision of their parents. Well, to be sincere, I was super excited. Finally, I have the freedom I was craving. Oh, now I can enjoy my youth to the fullest😉.

I was a bit confused by all the buildings in the school; they all looked the same, and I was finding it difficult to locate my department. A tall, fair, and young man walked up to me and said, "You are looking lost." I was happy that I had finally seen someone who could direct me to my department. When I told him the building I was looking for, he laughed and said, "That's it right there." I smiled as I was just standing right there in front of my departmental building. I introduced myself as "I'm Ani." He nodded and replied, "My name is Fred; I'm a student in this department too." It was a great relief that I had seen a colleague.

Fred took me to his house, and it was a nice, beautiful place. But there were a lot of people in the house. It was looking more like a party house. "This is my house, and these are my friends," Fred said, and I wondered why he had so many friends. Well, I didn't really care; I was just happy I found a friend far away from home.

It's a chilly Sunday evening, and Fred calls me, "Ani, I'm going out to get something. Do you care to join?" I looked at my watch, and it was 8 p.m. I answered, "No problem, I will join you." We went to a mall and then to a clubhouse. I asked Fred why we were in a clubhouse when we had an examination in the morning. He smiled and said, "Forget about the examination; let's have some fun." Well, Fred has been a good friend, but he loves to party, and I join him most times. But this time was really not cool for me. It was just a few hours before an important examination, and I needed to revise for the exams, but going out with Fred didn't allow me to do that.

I got to the examination hall, and to be truthful, I knew the answers to the questions, but I could not answer them as comprehensively as was required. I knew at that moment that I had let myself down. The time spent at the club would have been useful. At that moment, I could only blame myself for whatever outcome I would get.

I did a lot of thinking, and I knew a decision must be taken. I came to the university to study, and so far, I can say that I am not really doing well. I had been influenced by Fred. I had to end the relationship if I wanted to perform well academically. It was going to end for me, as Fred and I were very close.

I called Fred and told him about my decision. He told me he understood me, but he promised he was going to turn a new leaf. I was not sure how that was going to be possible. If Fred is to turn a new leaf, it means a lot of relationships must be called off. Some of our mutual friends called me and expressed their disappointment in my decision. It meant if I'm cutting ties with Fred, then I'm cutting ties with them also. I explained to them that the relationship was not beneficial to me academically. "The reason I'm in school is to study," I told one of our friends.

Well, I let everyone know that we are still friends, but that closeness won't be there again, as I needed fewer distractions.

What I can say is that the decision was difficult, but it was a good one. I improved academically, and I was proud of myself. I was happy that I was able to make the right decision when it was needed.

Some relationships may seem good and beautiful, but if they're not in line with one's vision and dreams, one needs to rethink them.

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