Opinion Series Part 2: Should Men Always Pay on Dates?

Happy Friday Hivers!

Ever since I was young, I noticed in movies that whenever couples went on dates, the man was always the one who paid. Because of that, I grew up believing that when I finally went on a date with my own partner, my boyfriend should be the one to cover the bill. That was the mindset I had back then, formed before I had ever even experienced having a boyfriend or going on a real date myself.

But once you actually get into a relationship, based on my experience, I realized that it’s not really necessary for the man to always pay for the date. Yes, it feels nice when the man pays, it can make a woman feel cared for, but in my case, I prefer that we take turns paying the bills.

Maybe it’s also because my boyfriend doesn’t have that much money, and I understand that. For me, what matters more is the effort, the time we spend together, and the mutual respect, rather than who pays every single time.

There was one time when my boyfriend was going through financial difficulties because someone in his family had been hospitalized. When we went out to eat together, he still insisted on paying, but I didn’t allow him because I knew his money was tight and it was also my turn to pay.

For me, it’s not necessary for the man to always cover the bill. I believe it’s better to either take turns or split the expenses. When you truly love someone, you don’t put all the financial responsibility on them, you help and support your partner instead. After all, if you are in a relationship, you should be working as a team and helping each other, not keeping score over who pays every time.

Since I was young, the movies I watched often portrayed women in relationships like Disney princesses, being treated, taken care of, and always having the man pay for everything. But in real life, a relationship isn’t like that. In reality, partners are supposed to support each other, not leave one person to shoulder all the responsibilities alone.

I didn’t let him pay alone simply because I love him. When you truly love someone, you don’t just let them carry the burden by themselves, you help them. Love, for me, means being considerate, understanding their situation, and choosing to stand beside them, especially when things are difficult.

Thank you for reading and see you on my next blog. Cheers!

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