The Stranger Within
Friends are supposed to be there for each other, to look out, and protect each others interests. I met Eny two years before my marriage. She got admission to a catering school and had to relocate to Surulere where her school is located. I got drawn to her because of her intelligence and outspokeness. She was fun to be with and definitely knows how to cheer me up with good stories.
The friendship progressed so quickly that my sisters weren't happy about it because they felt they didn't trust her because she talked too much. Eny was a chatter and can talk all day without getting tired. Being alone in a new environment is something I had experienced, and it wasn't a nice one. I wanted her to know she has family and friends, people she could also rely on for advice and support. I even introduced her to my aunt because her school was close to her apartment.

Eny would go there and use free wifi for assignments, download movies, cook, and eat whatever she likes. She became comfortable that she could visit anytime she liked, and then she started sleeping over. I didn't have any problem with it as long as everyone was cool.
I got married, left, and focused on my own family. We kept in touch, and she was the first friend to visit my apartment after we got settled in. A few months later, my name was on everyone's lip that Eny said, "I spoke harshly about my aunt to her."
She revealed confidential information I had told her and said I was ungrateful and a whole lot I couldn't mention. The most painful part was that she still kept cool with me while trying her best to damage my reputation and take my spot in the heart of my aunt. I realized she envied the trust and love my aunt and her family have for me, and she thought that since I had gotten married and left, it was a good opportunity to steal the spotlight.
It was my aunt's cook that called to inform me about the matter. I got very angry that I blocked her so she wouldn't be able to contact me. I also visited my aunt to clear the misunderstanding, and the whole thing was resolved. Eny wasn't comfortable anymore, nobody told her anything, but she read the handwriting on the wall and stopped visiting my aunts place.
When I think about it, I just wonder what happened to the sweet Eny I was initially drawn to. She could have still created a spot for herself in the family without trying to tarnish my own image. This was someone I assisted in school financially, I took her as my younger sister and wanted her to feel safe and loved.
I realized that I didn't see beyond the fake sweetness to know about her real personality. She became a stranger to me, and I left her in the stranger zone, which she created for herself to date.
This is my entry to this week @therealtalkk #prompt. I invite @ozibaby and @iquo to come and share their experiences.
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STOPFriends can sometimes be difficult to understand. You could be there for them all times, but they will never reciprocate that the same love you shared with them is so sad
It's really sad, and I learned my lesson in a hard way. 😪
Really sad my dear.
Friends can sometimes be difficult to understand. You could be there for them all times, but they will never reciprocate that the same love you shared with them is so sad
It is now that I have finally came to see that you are a very talented writer, I like this clear write up a lot, keep it up.
Thanks. I appreciate your encouraging response.
Your welcome 🤗🤗
This is painful, I don't know why it happens every time and against many people. It's like the in thing these days, very painful.
Yes, it's very common so we need to be more careful now.
Friends came one hate life sometimes😒. Why didn't she do her maths well, because if she had, she'd still be enjoying the accomodation your relatives continued offering even after you had left. Some friends though😏
Glad you cleared your name with your aunt.
Well, she definitely failed the maths. She has complained to people that I block her, she's also trying to reach me again but I've lost interest. I don't want to get hurt twice 😞
It's funny how we forget how someone has helped us before we go ahead and tarnish their name. it's probably for the best that you blocked her and your loss of interest is completely understable. Better safe than sorry
We deserve friends who uplift and support us, not bring one down, not the one that will tarnish your image behind you and still act friendly. Nice you count ties with her
Thanks. I don't waste time cutting off people who dont want my progress. It's useless to keep such friendship
Same here I do cut off as well for my all round well being
That's the best, nne.
Yes
My dear, I understand your story perfectly well, because that's the kind of treatment I get from people after giving them my heart and time. But thank God for life. We just leave them for God.
Yes o. I've done the one I can do. The rest is left for God and their conscience.
We always hand them over to God. Because I don't know how people feel, tarnishing others image
We need friends who encourage and help us grow.
We need friends who encourage and help us grow.
We need friends who encourage and help us grow.
You are correct. We should surround ourselves with encouraging people.
One thing I've come to understand is that, the fact that you easily get along with someone doesn't really make them your friend. If you want to achieve a good friend you need to set standards and boundries for yourself and the prospective friend. You need to assess the individual properly before reveling confidential matters no matter how irrelevant you feel it could be. Your purpose for sharing the information might be misunderstood just for selfish reasons.
Nice job dearie.
Thanks, dear. Setting standards would really help me achieve a long-lasting friendship.
I appreciate your comment 😊
You're welcome
I'm happy to see you back and active again after so long 😊
My sister a lot was really on my table then that I needed time to clear, but I will fully be back soon,
Nice to have you again
That's good. I hope you are enjoying your new environment. At least you have sister Chizaram close to you and food all around you 😉
I'm just trying to cope over here, sincerely it has not been easy especially the area I found myself has low power supply. But we are working on something to improve by Jehovah's willing
Sis Chizaram complained about the same issue. It seems the area has an issue with power supply. Don't worry, with time you will adapt and things will get better.
Yes, but some part of the street has a steady light. Although I'm some how far from her, just like distance between ijesha and aguda
It's not far na if it's distance from Ijesha to Aguda. I'm sure the light will improve soon.
I guess so, they have even improved a bit. Before you can't even see it for almost a week
Ahhhh, abeg o. I can't survive where there's no light.
So imagine how I felt when I got here, coming from a place band A.
Jealousy is a slow poison, the minute you sense it coming up in your heart , please take it away. It leads to so many bad things, the same jealousy and envy caused Cain to kill Abel, make Jehovah help us have real people around us .
You are right. Jealousy is a bad trait that can make people do the unthinkable, just like Cain, who killed his brother.
That's your own experience, you see things in a right way but they see it wrongly about you and that's part what makes us human which it not supposed be.
Well, that's life and humans in general.
It's very necessary for one to be economical with one's words when sharing certain information with "friends", especially when the relationship is still new. Some people envy your beautiful smiles , let alone the trust people have for you.
You are right. Thank you for your comment, I'm more careful now.
That's it!
It's my pleasure