My Marriage Blueprint

I love to think about my future, particularly my plans for building a family. Currently, marriage is not on the list of things I want to accomplish within the next four years. Presently, I am in my final year, and after this year, I will serve my country for a year. Following that, I will need to establish myself in the real world. Only then will I have the stability to build my own family? I have thought about this many times, and I believe I have everything figured out. I have often envisioned the kind of family I want to build; I often think about the number of kids I want to have, how I plan to raise them, and things like that. More importantly, I have also given considerable thought to the concept of marriage. The earlier you understand that marriage is not something you rush into, the better. One of the prominent reasons why marriages fail is because the couples don’t take their time.

Recently, we analyzed a book in school that explores the concept of marriage. The protagonist got married to someone whom she loved. But in the end, she realized that love alone was not enough to sustain the relationship. She realized that she wasn’t sexually compatible with her husband, but it was a little too late before she realized this- she had already committed to marriage. This brings me to today’s topic; standards for marriage. For this week, the Sci-fi multiverse community asks us to share our standards for marriage. What do you want in a partner? Do you want a financially buoyant partner? Or a housewife who would help you clean the house and manage the affairs? Do you want a partner who is physically attractive to you? Or do you want someone who must meet your spiritual needs?

Marriage standards vary from one person to another. What you consider the perfect standard might not make sense to another person. As I mentioned earlier, I have many times thought about marriage and the type of person I would want to do that thing called marriage with. When it comes to standards for marriage, in no order, one of the things on my list is physical beauty. Growing up, my mom often talked to us, her children, about marriage. She’d tell us not to marry for looks. Whether the person is ugly or not doesn’t matter, as long as their heart is clean.

However, while I'm not saying physical beauty is the primary attribute for me, it's one of the things that needs to be in place. I understand that marrying someone with a pure heart is ideal, but that doesn't mean attractive people can't have good hearts too. I'm not expecting perfection or exceptional beauty, just someone presentable. This factor may not seem significant to others, but it's important to me. Physical attractiveness is one of my marriage standards.

Moving on, a strong relationship with God is non-negotiable in a partner. In today’s world where it is very easy to get lost in the things of the world, being with a God-fearing partner will help you maintain your stand and stay strong. I was brought up in a Christian home. All my life has been around Christian doctrines. Now that I have grown older, I have not seen reasons to divert from my religion. In fact, I have seen more reasons to keep believing. A partner who has a good relationship with God will not only help me build spiritually but will also help my children build and grow.

Other key qualities I'm looking for in a partner include humility, sound decision-making skills, and the ability to resolve conflicts and differences peacefully. I believe these traits will help build a strong marriage.

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