Self-love is not Selfish (My Opinion)

I've come to realise that loving myself is not selfish but a necessity. When we are talking about self-love, it is not about being self centered on yourself alone or ignoring other around you, but is about recognising your own worth, your value and treating yourself with the same level of kindness and value you extend to others.

I've come to realise that if people don't celebrate me, I should celebrate myself. If people don't see my worth or value me, then I should value myself and know that I'm worth something.

Aside that, I cannot continue to give to someone something from a vessel which is about to run dry. If I don't take care of myself, if I don't treat myself well, I won't have enough to give to other. How can I truly love others or claim to love others if I don't love myself first. It is when I love myself, I will better able to love others.

Many people have this believe that when someone love himself, he's selfish. Many believed that putting oneself first over others is wrong. They think that if you focus only on yourself, if you focus only on your own needs, it means you don't care about others but I have a different opinion about this and I stand to be corrected.

Selfishness is taking from people without giving. It is caring for only yourself and ignoring others. It means receiving from others without giving back but self-love is filling yourself so that you can give out more. You cannot continue to pour out from yourself to others without refilling yourself. Selfish people take without giving back but self-loving people give out of the place of abundance, not from emptiness. Helping others should not mean harming yourself.

Self-love is the key for me to bring more present, more giving and more alive for the people I care about. For me to be able to give out to others genuinely, I must first nurture myself, I must first invest on myself.

Self-love is a daily choice to treat myself with the same love, energy and kindness I would like to offer to people. Self-love is the act of caring for my own well-being and happiness. It means treating myself with kindness and respect, and nurturing myself before I can treat others with kindness and respect.

So therefore in my opinion, self-love is not selfish. If you have a different opinion please feel free to share on the comment, I stand to be corrected.

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