Love & Relationship// Impatient Fault Finders.

Been in a romantic relationship involves two partners who come from different backgrounds with different characters and attitude, different personalities and different ways of thinking. No one is perfect, everyone has his/her flaws, strength, weaknesses, lapses and everyone makes mistakes. But is so unfortunate that most people always find fault in everything their partners does. There are people who are always quick to find faults and mistakes from their partners. They always put their attention on the wrong doing of their partners and are always putting blames for every little thing. I tagged them as impatient faulth finders.

Those people are so perfectionist in nature, always want everything to be done perfectly in their own way and by so doing expect their partners to be perfect and makes no mistake forgetting the fact that as humans, we are bound to make mistakes.

Some are so full of themselves that they try to feel better than their partners, always pointing out the flaws of their partners. Some belittle your partner's.

The reason why I'm sharing this is because on two different occasions have I had conversations with my friends and they complain that their partners always put blame and point out faults for everything little thing they do.

One of them complained that because her partner's level of education and knowledge is higher than her's, because of that he wants her to be like him, act like him and do things just the way he does. He picks faults in every little thing she does even the words of her mouth. For instance, if they are communicating with each other and she made a statement that she is supposed to use the word "had" instead of "have", the guy will pick offence and talk bitterly to her. If he called one's and she didn't pick immediately is a problem, he won't call her again until she called, even if it takes several days and the whole thing is becoming unbearable for her.

One thing I will like to say (my opinion) to anyone who finds himself/herself in such situation, be it the fault finder or a victim of such is to be Patient.

Patience is a virtue and a very vital ingredient in any relationship. When you are patient with each other, you will understand that no body is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. It shouldn't be that you find fault and blams in every little things your partner does.

Try to understand your partner feeling, how they will react if you constantly on a daily bases nag, shout and point out fault for small things. Instead of putting blames and faults all the time why not use respectful words to express yourself to your partner and tell them how feel. Like I will always say, some people don't mind you correcting them, it all depends on the tune and approach you use.

Before you both met each other, everyone has his/her life style, the flaws, the weakness and some may not be as sharp as you are and so the best thing to do is try to understand your partner and their flaws.

Sometimes changes in life don't happen immediately, therefore if you want your partner to do things the way you want instead of nagging and finding faults all the time, teach them. Open and speak up to your partner if you are with someone who always find fault in every little thing.

IT is not bad for you to notice your partner's flaws but the way you choose to handle those flaws matters. Don't get to extreme blaming, constantly nagging and pointing out fault. Instead of quick to blame, always pointing out faults and nagging, try to understand and correct appropriate.