A Friend I had to Outgrow!!!

As we grow in life, we outgrow many things. We outgrown habits, places, and even people we once held close relationship with. Sometimes it happens even without our knowledge and knowing and sometimes it happens so suddenly that when we look back, it feels like nothing ever existed between we and the person.

For me, the person I outgrew was my best friend then, someone I once considered a brother.

When we (my family) relocated newly to our area about 15 years ago, he was the first friend I made. Our bond was so strong that people around us called us twins. My parents even enrolled me in the same school he is going so that we could be going together, studying together, and doing almost everything side by side. This guy can literally walk into our house anytime, serve himself food from the kitchen, and even sleep over. The same was for me too in his house. The friendship was so strong that we hardly don't see each other in a day.

But life has a way of testing even the closest relationships. The turning point for us came because of a lady not because we fought over her, but because of the kind of person he chose to be in the relationship.

A new neighbor and his family moved into our area one day, and I helped them unload their belongings from the truck. That was how I met the man's daughter who later became my close friend. My guy was not around then when my neighbor's came, he had traveled. When he came back and saw the lady, he said he liked her and wanted to know her. Because both of them were my friends, I connected them and shared her number with him. They got along well and eventually started dating.

She was a good lady, the type who cared so much for her partner. She supported him emotionally, financially, surprising him with money when he doesn't have without him asking. She gave everything she could because she loved him genuinely. But along the line, I noticed something about my friend. He was not serious with her. He had other girlfriends he mingle with, and he saw her as one of many. I was not okay with it and decide to advised him to stop the double dating and be honest with her, because this lady is my friend and I connected them both but he brushed it off, saying a man was not supposed to have just one girl.

I kept quiet for a long time, even when she complained to me about his distant attitude and the excuses he always gave. I covered up for him because he was my guy. But things got worse. His demands from increased, and he began ignoring her calls intentionally. His attitude pushed her into emotional stress.

One day she came to me crying, and I knew I couldn’t keep quiet anymore. I told her the truth, not because I wanted to ruin anything between them, but because it was unfair to watch someone who trusted me suffer like that. She decided to find out for herself and ended up confirming everything by checking his phone. When she confronted him, he reacted and lose it to the point of raising his hand and hitting her. That was the last straw.

She told me what happened and I went to him and confronted him. We got into an argument, and that was the moment our friendship start dying. He blamed me for their breakup and cut me off, and I also stepped back completely. Even today, I don’t regret any part of what I did. If someone treated my sister the way he treated that lady I won't like it and I would want someone to speak up too.

We went our separate ways. My life continued, and for over 8 years now, I've not heard from him. The last I heard, he got someone pregnant and was forced to married her.

So sometimes, people are only meant to be in our life for a season. And when that season ends, we simply move on. If I'm to bring him back into my life, I might consider so far as he has changed if not, I wouldn't. We could still talk to each other but the bond won't be strong like before again.

Some friendships end because they need to not because we want it to end but because they are just there for a season.