Why do you need an inner circle in life?
To be honest, everyone needs support because we cannot do life alone; if we try, it becomes lonely, stressful, hectic, and exhausting.
Life is a conglomerate of contrasting events moving in different directions, and because human life is limited, our resolve is inflexible, and there is only so much we can do, we require support.
Money is not all
When we talk about "support," money is often the first thing that comes to mind, but we all know that money is only one of many options. There is the practical support of pure kindness, which can leave us indebted indefinitely.
There is the impractical support of friendship, as well as the natural love that motivates others to do the right thing for us. This is how people can go from nothing to everything; they take advantage of every little kindness shown to them in order to build their own strong foundation.
Does it come with benefits?
Look at infants: they are fragile, tiny, and cry all the time. A mother holds them for 10 months until they are born, and they continue to receive this support until they are 18.
Imagine being dependent for more than 18 years of your life; what has the mother gained by sacrificing everything for that time? Probably nothing, except that they are responsible for providing this support due to the love that is naturally transferred from mother to child.
Without support, life is practically impossible. Almost everyone had been given, nurtured, pushed, encouraged, motivated, or even assisted in various ways. It is the very basis of our existence.
Support is structured like a ladder. Notice how you need to combine various steps to scale? How each and every steps plays a significant role, and how only of the steps is nothing, except the other steps play their role?
If you remove each of those steps, they are now known as sticks on their own, despite the fact that they were once part of an important tool called a ladder.
This is to say that people can be useless on their own because they are not a part of anything, or they are a part of something but it is not a part of them.
People can find themselves in situations where they do not belong, doing things that are not appropriate for their abilities, gifts, health status, frame of mind, or mentality. Many people can easily get stuck in the wrong place because they understand the fundamental principle of "not doing life alone."
An Inner CT
An inner cycle is analogous to a group of people who support, network, help, and push themselves.
While the foundation of this union is primarily transactional, we must recognize that clearly defined transactional relationships are superior to love that appears real on the surface but is actually fabricated in reality.
Everyone needs one of these in their lives, because the most beneficial relationships are based on transactionality rather than pure love. Transactionality is not bad; you can lift someone today, and they will lift you tomorrow.
I am not saying you should rely on this for the rest of your life; rather, it is important to be available to provide value, even in unexpected places, because you never know when you will be the one in need of the same support you provided.
Fit in
It is why you need to find a place to fit in, because, let us be honest, only your immediate family members will be forced to attend profess their love for you, especially in matters of urgency, even if they do not want to.
However, once you find a place to fit in, you can start to build support, accumulating some "I owe you" and "you owe me." These things take time, but they are generally necessary and important in life.
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that's true, only your family will support you no matter what and enter a good circle is quite hard as most of the times you will get dropped when in real need
it's same as friends, it's really hard to find a good one that will support you, most of the times it's just a superficial friendship
I've probably had More superficial friends, I think 80%, it's wild. So that's why people struggle to maintain relevance, so they can have something to give in a transactional relationships.
As for family, they're probably the only people that'll have to come out and take responsibility for you in dire situations, even though they don't like you as much
Life can be much more enjoyable when not lived alone, especially with the right support. Finding that support can be more tricky, and things don't always work out. Life for the most part is transactional, which is sad... It always has been and I suspect it always will be...
It's mostly transactional, even when you find an inner circle, it's still the same. Sometimes we have to struggle to remain relevant, else we can't benefit from transactional relationships, it's just how it is nowadays
No one is an island, we all need each other one way or the other. Again, having support is paramount in one's life as it makes living and growth a lot easier.
It can even improve one's mental health, thereby reducing stress and anxiety. When there are people who have your back, as in "they dey for you", you can go home and sleep.
One does not need just any support, but the right support and when you find them, do all you can to stick with them. Such are rare to find.
Yes, the right support matters a lot and can come in handy as well, and obviously the world is mostly "be there for me, I'm there for you" it's transactional to some extent, but it's not entirely bad, as this is how most of the friendship we have in life is based.
Something like "if you scratch my back, I'll equally scratch yours when the time comes", life goes on and everyone is happy.
Have a great weekend.
I had to take that to tell you I just started reading the book by John c maxwell and all you said here is like paraphrasing the intro....seriously humans we are interwoven together in some sort of way ......
We really need each other to really do so much ...
Hoping to read deep about the 17 laws of teamwork cause that's like a fundamental tool of great leadership
I haven't read the book, but it looks like it's going to be an interesting one to read. Infact it's been a long time I've ever read any books, but I'm somehow experienced in the complexities of human relationships, and that's where I'm writing from
That's very true i too can relate .....
Having a solid crew who actually shows up when you need them beats fake friends who just say they care. Real support is about mutual benefit, we all win when we help each other out I think
Absolutely, we can’t go through life alone. Support isn’t just about money as it’s a human touch or simply being there with sincerity when someone needs it most.
I agree. We can't live alone and society is there as a way to get in touch with others. I think that finding some friends or family to rely on is a good thing because there is only so much you can do alone.
Money helps but those random acts of kindness from strangers can literally change your whole trajectory. I've seen people bounce back from rock bottom just because someone believed in them when nobody else would.
We are not meant to be alone. We haven't built the civilization by acting as individuals. And yes, we all need support, even the strongest of us, who seem unshakable.