Once poor, always poor!
Since I was a child, I have never been in a position of authority, where my opinion mattered.
In fact, in my extended family, I was the one whose opinion was least valued, and I have never been in a situation where I could say much and people would listen, so most of the time.
A small man
I identify as a small person, because that is where I am in most aspects of life: I do not have money, I am not the healthiest person, I am not in government, I am not attractive or muscular, and I do not have many people who regard me highly enough to see everything I say as a command or see any special thing in whatever I say
A few days ago, I was talking with a few content creators on Twitter using my partner's account; apparently she did not like it very much; she wanted me to focus on socializing with big content creators who would drive the monetization value to the account; in her words, she referred to them as "nobodies."
However, I did not see these people as such; instead, I saw them as smaller creators driving traffic to her page, despite the fact that it has no financial traction for her; apparently, I forgot I was speaking to them on her behalf and was speaking to them as if I were speaking to them myself. Then I wondered, if I were richer, healthier, or had a large web2 account, would I have a completely different personality?
Perhaps not; I have always identified as a small man, and I do not think having $10 million in my bank account will change that. Why? I believe I spent the majority of my early and middle years trying to make ends meet, rising from the ashes, and fighting the force of gravity that naturally pulls you down when you are disadvantaged.
Personally, I prefer to refer to myself as a "nobody." Why? I have not driven any innovation, have not financially or mentally changed anyone's life, and have not accomplished anything significant.
If anything, I like to think I have been selfish with myself, working hard to care for my health and small family without looking around. In fact, I have been touring hospitals more than I have been visiting people or showing kindness lately.
This is not because I do not want to be kind; rather, there is a gravitational force that constantly pushes whenever I try to pull.
So yes, I am a nobody. However, I realize that coming to this woman as a nobody may have been because I was able to offer financial partnership and incentives, which is why she values me, but when all that is stripped away, I am just a poor man trying to put food on the table, have enough money to buy medicine, and get basic things done.
So, yes, I do not believe any financial gain will be enough to change me.
I'm too poor to have a rich man's mindset
I am not sure what character I will play or whatever character I will need to play in life; in fact, I might be a very poor character because it will be difficult to make me "act" as someone else; this life is literally embedded in my DNA, and even if I am riding in a Ferrari and wearing a three-piece suit, I would rather have a conversation with a regular man than a wealthy man; at my core, that is not who I am.
I am not saying I want to stay poor or middle class, whatever. It is like going to the United States at this point in my life and spending 20 years there; my accent will not change, why? Because I am already who I am. I am grateful for life experience. Most of the time, I am grateful that I have been able to fend for myself since I was 17.
A life that's never forgotten
It is been a difficult life, but I have seen life from a perspective that many people do not understand: being fired, receiving low pay, not having enough money to buy food, and experiencing emotional and physical abuse.
That life leaves a mark on you; it is etched in your very essence like a leech on your skin; you become one with your experience, and your story and history form a significant part of your identity.
At this age, I believe I am no longer adaptable to any change that a good life may bring; I am who I am, and I will always remember that.
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You seem like a pretty good and grounded man from what I've been reading in this post. Of course everyone should live in relative wealth, no one should struggle buying groceries from their income.
But when it comes down to who you identify as, it is always better enjoying to be surrounded by normal people, the people where 99% of people come from, rather than looking down at anyone.
I think everyone should be heard. Everyone should have an equal say in all matters they are affected by - whether it be on a governmental level or inside your own family. Sadly this is not yet the reality we live in. But I feel like in your example, when I look at your Hive-Account for one second without reading much more of it or analyzing it in depth: you found your way to be heard online. That is something nice, that it seems hard, but indeed more possible to be heard online at least by some people. You will find people that except your looks, your personality, your views. And in your specific case you seem to have found them here on Hive
Best of luck to you!
Thank you for the kind take. I was raised in the suburbs of Lagos Nigeria, fighting genetic chronic conditions from birth and even though I've lost every member of my once nuclear family, I'm grateful to God to have come this far, when no one gave me the chance. This alone is why I'm aligned in this manner. I've have known and seen people coming from a place of advantage, and sometimes I cannot relate to them, because I don't even have that much voice or opinion to go that far.
Yes, this is why as a common person, I feel better relating to my fellow common person.
As for Hive, yes, I've found a voice here, infact it's probably the only place I've actually found a voice that mattered. To be able the create, share my life experiences and opinion and use it to inspire and educate another person.
Thank you for the kind words
We live in an imbalance world where people's mindset and lifestyle differs. Being in a position where you can cater for yourself without the help of anyone is more encouraging which others look up to and this to me won't be regarded as been poor.
Yes, but in my case, it differs, I can't still pay my basic hospital and medication needs, because they're very expensive, but yes, I try to fight everyday
Your better off than so many other people who even look up to you so that however is an encourage to others.
Lol, if I tell you the health complications I'm battling probably you won't say this lol. But it's okay, people are where they are thinking they know it all.
It is well I believe it will be better
That is very touching, I like the fact that you are who you are. It can even be dangerous to think we are wealthy when we are still at the very stage of finding ourselves.
I think with the experience you have, you already know you stand, and it is good to have that ideas.
Some people out there might act rich, yet deep down they are going through hard times, but with this lifestyle of yours, you won’t have anything to bother about. Very interesting to come across your post today.
Have a great moment bro.
Lol anyone who thinks they're rich and it doesn't reflect in their lives, then they don't know who they are really. As for people who acts, it's generally up to them. People can choose to be in denial because it helps them cope with the troubles of life
Very true bro. Have a wonderful day.
I understand how tough things must have been for you, be it your health aspect. How frustrating that would have been for you. I know things wouldn't have been easy for you on that. And also you don't have to see yourself as "nobody" Some member's of your family might not know your value, but people around you will definately value your presence and your impact in their life, especially your partner, even if other see you as "nobody" I belief she can never see you as nobody. I didn't know you physical though, but I know you really making impact in people's life in one way or the other. So don't see yourself as someone doing bad.
In reality, 90% are nobodies, because we will live our lifetime without really doing anything notable for life to remember us with, and when it comes to money, having it helps you make impact. Having a position of authority also helps you make impact, and many things like that. For me, I don't find it strange to call myself a nobody, especially since I live a relatively quiet and regular life
Hmmm...I belief you have your reason's for saying this, calling yourself "a nobody"
I was just Smiling reading your post.....uhmm this life is full of up's and down it now depend on the way you take or tackle it that will define who you actually are.....what really got me here is when you said your partner accept you as nobody just because you are bringing something on the table,uhnmm I trust my gender😀
The partner" I meant was someone I'm working with, not a wife or something like that. Yes, she doesn't really see me as a nobody, because of the utilities I bring to her, because I were to quit the business relationship then that value leaves her too.
I think 99% of people in the world will end as a nobody... You are not a nobody if you changed the world, if history remember you, Da Vinci, Caesar, Einstein, Hopkins, Gates... Those are someone, but there's one every billions... I will end as a nobody too, it is what it is... I think we could change if we would have the power to dictate anything we want tough
Yeah, we all end up as nobodies anyway, but yeah, history will remember some people more than the others. However a lot of people just live regular lives and you know, no one counts them important because they're bit beautiful or rich enough.
You're someone many people on Hive look up to. I can't even begin to count how much I've learned from reading you .
I agree we can't change where we come from, just as trees can't change their roots, but we can still spread our branches as wide as we want.
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BEERKING.Hehe, well yes, I say some decent and motivating things sometimes, and have also met some people here, but even as at that, these people no longer remember who I am, neither do they text me anymore, so people can forget anyone else, which goes back to the idea of being a "nobody" but, thank you for the kind words
Sometimes, even at a young age, you can already feel 'small' — like your voice doesn't matter or like you're invisible in a world that's moving too fast. Your honesty about your struggles makes me realize that being real and staying grounded is something valuable. That even if I succeed one day, I never forget where I came from or the people who saw me when I was still a 'nobody.
Exactly this is it. I'm of the opinion that even if I succeeded it's not going to impact anything, as I'm already what I am. This life doesn't mean much to me anymore and no type of success is going to change me.
For me I didn't believe that but it depends to other people. We have different perspectives and it depends on us if we have courage to achive that one goal to make us more stable.
I just think that most people are nobodies. Unless your someone rich or powerful, I just think that the rest of us just live out our lives. I don't think its good to neglect the nobodies, but if that is what your partner wants, then I don't think there is much of a choice. After all, it is her account.
You're completely right. Most of us are nobodies, unless we make a memorable impact, either with our money or the position we occupy in power and apart from that, no one remembers us anyway
So many people carry that invisible weight of never feeling heard or valued, it shapes everything, even how we see ourselves, no matter the circumstances.
For me our words are holy and through our words we can make manifestations, so be careful on your words. We are not poor because God loves us and provided all our needs so that is one fact that we are rich in GOD'S blessings.
The way I see it you aren't a nobody if you strive to help out others, and maybe make their day a little brighter. Will most of us end up in the history books, no. But you aren't a nobody, you may not be built with muscles like Schwarzenegger, but very few are. I think you are doing the best you can, and with any luck things will improve. We can't control our health or genetics, but you have a life and you have your faith. That's what matters most!
Thank you, I try my best, I do. Most times it looks like it doesn't matter, and for me, 90% of people just exist and nothing really spectacular on the outside, but it may but mean that it wasn't special. Thank you for the kind words.