Is Seeking Connection a Glorified Form of Ass-Licking?
In 2020, I went to the bank to take care of a few things, and the bank lady informed me of a savings plan. I decided to purchase the plan. Now, I completely squandered my money because I did not receive a good ROI for my investment, but this wasn't a problem, I didn't completely lose and this was how.
I discovered that whenever I needed to go to the bank, all I had to do was call this lady, and she would prepare everything for me. It was simple to skip the line, complete a lot of paperwork, and get through the red tape of being in the bank. Infact I was able to breeze in and out of the bank during COVID and it was that easy.
All I had to do was call the lady, and she would perform the magic. In retrospect, the bank plan I purchased was a waste of money, but I met someone who made banking easier for me.
Connection is knowing people who add both monetary and non-monetary value to your life, and most of the time, this relationship must be mutual in order to function.
We Cannot Always Lose, We Can Learn As A Sidenote
I remember this TV show called The Blacklist, and the main character was a well-connected man. Someone always owed him favors. Every time he was in a bad situation, he knew who to call, and that was how he survived.
The man persuaded people to do him favors by either blackmailing or being nice to them.
Obviously, being a blackmailer is a bad way to be connected, and you would do better if you were connected with others in a positive way, but the point is that the man overcame obstacles in his life by staying connected.
We all need connections.
It's how we can survive
Having people is more valuable than having money.
Why?
Money does not have feelings; it cannot walk, think, or speak. In fact, a person who is connected to more people is more likely to experience a positive change in their financial situation than someone who has money but is less connected.
In a broader sense, connection is more important than seeking money, but the only reason we think of money when we hear the word "connection" is because it is a comprehensive example of how connections can work.
However, the more people there are, the more likely it is that they will survive.
Clearly, those with means are the most connected. People who recognize and seize opportunities.
Being friends with a restaurant owner means you get better food and value for your money. It is for this reason that criminals or crooks will choose to befriend police, lawyers, and even judges, allowing them to continue their criminal activities while avoiding the wrath of the law.
People's methods of seeking connections have evolved over time. In reality, being connected should result from a spinoff event; while making moves with the intention of gaining connections may be prudent, some people aim too high and end up becoming fake friends and other things.
People are more likely to stay connected when they have clear and defined bonds and goals.
In today's world, people from various industries are required. You only need to know someone who knows another person. It is why wealthy people prefer to be around themselves; it is not like they enjoy their company or anything, but they are probably in positions like that because of the strings they can pull.
Connections enable people to advance from being mere company drivers to general managers.
This is a longer game, You have to play
......it means that people may require patience and time to cultivate the relationships that will lead to the desired connections and help them scale. However, there are no naturally occurring phenomena that cannot be obtained artificially.
People unintentionally meet those with whom they can intentionally build things while going to the mall or doing other everyday activities.
In order to improve our lives, we realize we cannot do so alone, which is why we form communities of like-minded people who can make things happen.
Hive
On Hive, people refer to petty attempts at connections as "asslicking." In reality, 70% of our connections are inorganic and stem from ass-licking.
The reason why it's called ass-licking is because some people aim to build themselves some humongous connections without starting from the grassroots or the basics.
However, we rarely see it this way, even though it is the truth. But look around, the people with the capacity to influence a larger following establish more longevity on Hive
In Conclusion
Some how somewhere, we all know we have to start from scratch; if someone owes you a favor, they must have been in some way indebted to you. Indebtedness is the state of feeling compelled to repay. The need or desire to repay is how connections are formed.
It does not always have to be sentimental; it can simply be about paying back. It is a clear indication that you should, unintentionally or intentionally, make people feel indebted to you and allow their senses of gratitude to work its magic.
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Great food for thought. I would say also on the flip side that it should also be motivating for us to be able to do something useful and add value to society or your connections. A valuable connection is a good plumber, electrician, mechanic and not a lazy bum who doesn't know anything.
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Exactly, you're correct. Adding value is how people can actually build the connection they have, if not, no one wants to be indebted to someone who they cannot extract value from.
The bank lady got a good commission from my stupid financial decision but in turn she did me favours over the years and somehow this has paid off in many ways for me.
Thanks for the curation.
Connecting with people is most enjoyable when face to face, reading people is being a lost cause with internet, earn trust through connecting and chatting.
When not able to see the eyes or body language we are limited.
Merry Christmas Jose!
Well to me, building connections is even deeper than a conversation. A lot more is probably involved, through so many years of shared experiences.
Merry Christmas to you too.
Networking is very important and I want to believe that I am making connection on Hive with people that I like or share interest with. I must confess that I was getting some nice upvotes from a whale in the past where I was commenting, but in the end I didn't resonate with his subjects and even were contradictory to my values, so I stopped. It is up to us which path we want to follow.
Indeed. I can feel you when you talked about a whale whom you were getting some decent support from but didn't resonate with his ideas. I have some people like that too. I think we can find people who can support us and who we can also support and our ideas and ways resonates with them. I think these are the people we can build with for a long time. I think it takes time but it will eventually happen.
Connections are important for navigating life with ease. At one point or the other it is what makes the difference between extreme stress and ease just like u experienced in the bank.
Personally, I think that one should secure connections anywhere necessary because you never know when it would come in handy, and I don't mean going out of your way to do some ass-licking.
During your daily activities, you meet people and interact, bonds are formed, that's something or maybe that's just me.
You're right. We should aim to secure connections as we go on in life. I think this is how we're going to survive as we truly cannot do it on our own.
Haha, one way or the other we've done some ass-licking in the past although not for malicious purposes. However I think there's no harm, provide the intention is good.
Lol, you don catch me😂😂
Really interesting take with interesting insights. Forming connections reduces a lot of the friction we experienced going through life, since we become part of a network that we can leverage. There's also this other aspect of more connections equals more vulnerabilities, as in The Blacklist show with blackmails scenarios example. But I think overall, the good outweighs the bad, especially when we're intentional on the connections we form.
The blacklist was very good. One of the few TV shows that was clean and you get to learn a lot about how this connection thing works. I think he (main character ) used a lot more blackmail, but then it isn't really easy to get someone to owe you a favor.
It shows the length to how far people can go; the creativity, flair and purpose we put in for the sake of survival
I only watched a few episodes of it but it was really interesting for me to explore how the main character operates. He's great with words, which is a fundamental part for controling dynamics in connections. Many just need a lit bit of push to start the connection journey :)
It's an interesting take but I do think that connections are quite important. They can make the process a lot easier. It does come with its own downsides as that also gives you obligations.
Connections are very important in life, especially in local business. I once ran a business in a small town and knew all of the police, lawyers, and even the judge. Of course I would do them favors and in return they watched my back which was nice.
Hive is no different, but when I do favors I don't always expect a reciprocation. Sometimes people do and it's greatly appreciated. I could always use some more connections, but at this point in my Hive journey I'm not really looking for a whole lot more. I have a tough time keeping up with the connections I already have.
I hope yesterday was a good day for you!
This is such an insightful perspective on connections and their value in or lives.
It's true that sometimes the benefits we gain from relationships go beyond the obvious monetary returns.
Your example with the bank lady perfectly illustrate how connections can make life smoother and more convenient.
Thanks for sharing this.
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