Building Sound rather than noise
The world is a big, yet a small place as well. With over 7 billion people on the planet, the average person may only know 30 to 50 people in their lifetime. I am referring to people with whom they may have interacted directly or indirectly.
Although it varies, some people may know slightly less or more than others. While we are wired to be social animals, we are not meant to spread ourselves too thin; instead, people thrive in social circles where they can share similar identities with others and create something together.
If you look at a business person who meets a lot of customers on a daily basis, they are unlikely to remember people they only meet once or twice; even if you are making millions of transactions, your face or identity may not register in their mind.
This is not a subconscious action; it is primarily unintentional. Memory works through the constant repetition of new information. Even salespeople cannot afford to know so many people at once, and the people they will most likely remember are the ones who consistently patronize them.
However, in life, people try to do more than they can actually do. I understand the importance of casting a wide net into the ocean, but sometimes we try to catch everything and end up with nothing.
The traction issues
Someone recently asked me why they had not been getting traction on Hive. To them, it was most likely a Hive issue, but they overlooked something: you can not have everything. We cannot be friends with everyone, we cannot form bromance or SIS-mance relationships with everyone, and even if we tried, we would fail miserably because we simply cannot keep up with "knowing everyone" all in the name of networking.
Networking is meant to be impactful, concise, and intelligent; we need to understand who we are before we know who we need to network with; however, if we simply want to get everyone on our side, we will lose out.
The options for Variety can kill consistency
The option for Variety does not simply imply that we are wired to maximize our available options. This is why people can only hold two or three jobs at a time.
The body cannot cope with the stress, and the mind will most likely become ill as a result of the overload of detail and information. It is why people have a limited number of children, spouses, and many other things, and we simply cannot go hard on the options we have when they are just too much for us to handle.
For example, most businesses give bonuses or discounts to their longest or most consistent customers because they are more than just loyal; they have established identities that deserve recognition, and sometimes the relationships extend beyond business to achieve even better results.
Limit it
For example, I only patronize a limited number of people in commercial real-life activities because I prefer to keep numbers to a minimum. I prefer quality to quantity. I can not accomplish anything by spreading my patronage too thin, because I have learned that money relationships require consistent patronage to produce better results.
People can go from business people to friends and from that to brothers. This cannot be achieved simply by spamming a few interactions.
Business interactions or networks can sometimes take 5 to 10 years for the parties involved to realize that they are no longer just business people; there is something deeper going on.
It works exactly the same way in real life as it does on Hive.
Sometimes you have to be involved with people for a long time in order to form a genuine network and relationship. We regard chronic interactions as genuine relationships because the mind is wired to acquire knowledge through constant repetition of information.
This is why you do not build networks over a few days or weeks; networks require constant interaction to be built. Knowledge like this is very simple; it does not require a genius to decipher.
Familiarity is the end-goal
For example, if you smile at someone every time you see them, you may appear to them as a freak or a deluded person for the first few days or weeks, but as you continue to do so, this stranger will eventually become familiar with that smile, and once this feeling of familiarity is established, you will no longer be a stranger to them, but you may have to do this for a long time, and if you stop halfway, your previous efforts will be foiled and broken.
You cannot simply network with everyone, you just need a few, and go hard as well. Although I agree that you should try everything you see before deciding what you truly need or want, if you do it for too long, all you will end up with is noise rather than sound.
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I couldn't agree with you more. In today's world, it is easy to get caught up in trying to maximize our options and spread ourselves too thin. However, as you have so eloquently put it, money relationships require consistent patronage to produce better results. By prioritizing quality over quantity and investing in a few meaningful connections, we can build stronger and more lasting relationships that would pay off in the long run.
Thank you for this post.
I've seen it constantly play out many times and this is why I actually don't have a lot of in-real life friends. I have just few and this is the same with people I do business with, in real life as well. Trying to know or deal with everyone is exhausting. One will jump do everything and end up not doing anything. The illusion of having multiple options is actually not a profitable flex.
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I can personally attest to this being 100 percent true.... It is worse when you have got so many siblings.
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Correct, it will remain a terrible mistake trying to get everyone on our side, understanding who we are, the values that we offer, will definitely attract us to the right type of people.
Yes, indeed I agree.
I think it's better to just concentrate on a network of people with you can share values/thoughts or even just sympathy rather than try and spread to everyone as you say, it's just a waste of energy, it's like try to excel in every possible study field
The familiarity is a good example, I have built a "network" with local shops, they know me, make discounts or accept a later payment and stuff like that, all this came over much time when you built the relationship but you can't get familiar with every store in the city
I also have a network local business people that can I patronize and they're likely to give me stuffs at discounted prices. It didn't just take a few days, it took a few years before it happened like this. I do business with them, and it saves me extra expenses, and I don't have to deal with newer business owners who are just going to rip me off because they don't know me. However on the other hand, doing business with more familiar faces that I've known over the years, saves me from issues like this.
It's the same on Hive as well and that's just the truth for everywhere else
This content is very educational, you made a vital point that many people overlook, some people think that building takes just few days or a little while, they don't understand that it takes years to build and earn trust so in networking like hive, focusing on building relationships will help one improve his consistency and with time he will make durable and quality friends.
This is the same in businesses when you have not spent a quality time in someone's business it would be difficult for the person to know that you even exist.
Thanks for the comment, yes. Networking is a chronic game of consistency in any system or any place, we cannot exchange it for something else and we cannot do without proper intentionality.
This is it. Gaining recognition or having the customer "status" takes a while. People don't get to recognize others in short periods, it takes longer time.
The fact that humans are social animals and they need to interact is very correct, we need others to survive but it's also not possible to interact successfully with everybody we can only interact within our destination, this is a good reminder that balance is the key. Thank you for this tip.
Yes, thanks for reiteration. We simply cannot be network with everyone we meet.
Most don't have the quality that can attract us, so we might just have to complete the transaction and leave and that's the end forever
It's the same with others too; sometimes we're not what they want.
Exactly, that's why we keep searching for who wants us the way we are and who we want they way they are, how about that?
I agree. Solid connections are better than shallow ones. A good customer is much better than one that will leave when things aren't good. They are less likely to leave when things get tough, and they will generally also do some compromises when things are tough.
Indeed, you're right. Shallow connects do not even last, and don't stand the test of time. In most cases, some people just want to build multiple shallow relationships, hoping it'll be more beneficial in the long run.
My momma use to tell me that you shouldn't start what you cannot finish, don't smile at someone every time to gain the persons trust or affection if you know you can not keep it up, people begin to see you in a different light when you stop smiling at them when you always have.
You don't have a choice. In the game of networking, you cannot give up and that's it. It's either you don't start. When you give up, you waste 50% or more of the efforts you've started with.
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