A World of Labels and Identities
I was talking to someone recently, and I mentioned a significant event in my life, which surprised this person because I had not told anyone yet. However, it was not my intention to reveal such information to them; I did so because I wanted to use that event to make a completely different point. A lot has happened in my life, and while I used to focus my content on personal matters, I have now developed a filter.
This filter was intended to keep some information from the public and only release information that I had vetted as "not sensitive.* It was uncharacteristic of me. Reading my posts used to reveal a lot about me, but I do not think they are as important anymore. While I will not go so far as to hide my face or other personal information, I do believe that the information I have given off in the past has not served me well, and it is now available for anyone to see because the eyes of the chain are omniscient.
Essentially, I believe we all require a perceptive filter; I simply believe that some of the things we say or do when we are hurt, vexed, or experiencing emotional trauma can stay with us indefinitely, especially if there is a place where the things you can do can never be erased; another person can simply access these information from other interfaces, and there you have it.
We Can Be Changed, With Retrievable Proofs
I used to watch videos of people who had quit adult movies and claimed to be changed people. While it is true that people can change. The evidence of who they once were will stay with them forever. The world never forgets. The internet immortalizes people; their actions and accomplishments can live on indefinitely, which can be frightening at times.
You cannot control how others perceive you. They choose to see you the way they want and to judge you based on what they believe they know about you. It is life. I know it is harsh that we are no longer the same people, but others can not seem to see us the way we want them to. They may prefer the previous version of who we were, whether for vanity or other reasons. However, it is difficult to have people who can see us as we are now.
This is why I believe the concept of friendship is flawed.
We mostly have people who want us to be who they think we are to them, and then we are no longer that person; it is as if they have no use for us. For example, I am coming to terms with my illnesses, complications, and diseases while also finding my place in my new faith. So, basically, I can not go drinking or womanizing anymore, not only because it is unhealthy, but because my faith no longer approves of it.
As a result, I will and should lose over 90% of the people I used to do this with. I expect to, and this is reality. Mostly because these guys have no use for me anymore, and if I do not fit into that category, the friendship ends. So we can not force people to see us in a new light. It is their choice, and you have to be prepared to see that side of reality.
We live in a world of labels.
We will mostly be labeled based on what people want to know about us. We do not always want this, or we used to like it but changed our minds, so we do not anymore. Sometimes it feels like betrayal, and sometimes it hurts, but only because you do not understand what reality really is. I am no longer afraid of labels. We live in a human society with labels and titles that some people prefer and others dislike.
However, life changes, and we are no longer who others think we are. It is similar to referring to an ex-convict as such. Regardless of whether they changed. It is a label that follows them around in life, including job opportunities and other places. We cannot simply tell people we are not who they think we are. The records are there.
Sometimes signs are written there. Personally, I am coming to terms with my own reality. While I despised some labels and identities. Some of them define who I am, and I strive to find solace and acceptance every day.
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It’s always good to speak out when we are going through something. Some people will mock us while some will offer to help so we should just focus on those who wish to help.
At the same time, it won’t make sense to reveal all we are going through to people. I feel everyone needs to develop a filter. Not everyone reveals what they are going through…
We gotta develop a filter and maybe just reveal a few things we are going through
Well for me, at this point, I don't think the mocekery gets to me anymore. I have come to accept it all.
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It's tough to accept that people often see us through the lens of our past, even if we've changed. I think it's great that you're embracing your new faith and finding a sense of purpose.
It's not easy to let go of the people who don't accept us for who we are now, but it's a necessary step towards true self-acceptance.
I've had to do the same with my own struggles and it's been a journey of self-discovery.
I believe it is better to be authentic, especially to ourselves, and don't let the opinions of others define our worth.
It's an easy thing for me to let go. Since I could lose the only sibling I had, I don't think I have the power or influence to make anyone stay. We lose people voluntarily and involuntarily and at this point, it's what it is, and one has to accept it.
Everyone has a path, and sometimes as we change, it might not colide with the path of others. I wholly accept this. Thanks for for the kind words.
This is nice of you Sir.
Change is the best option for any pattern of life one considers bad, boring or satisfied with.
Great you developed a filter. I think that's the major option for you. Great work man.
Thank you
It's really tough when people can't see how much we've changed, but I admire your honesty and the courage to set boundaries brom Staying true to yourself is so important, even if it means losing some friends. Wishing you a happy weekend bro !WEED
Truly, if it means losing people. In the end we're all alone though. We came to the world alone and even those we think loves us the most will not sink into our problems or pains with us..
You're right about this bro
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At the end of the day all we have left is our reality. The past is the past, and you grow away from some old friends because you no longer share the same moral compass. Plus life means more now than it did when we were "immortals".... I no longer worry about what people think or label me, it's not my problem.
Keep the spirits up my friend, it's tough to do sometimes in the world when we know time on this planet is finite!
For someone who is just in my early 30s I feel so old sometimes. Maybe it's because of the way life has happened. Like you, I don't think I care anymore. For sure, I've mostly grown out of place with many friends I used to know. I don't regret it.
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This is just how life is; even when we let go of some of our past, we will still labelled for it. People will keep pointing fingers for that particular deed.
But whether people are mocking or not, it shouldn't affect you in any way. Especially when you know what you are working to achieve.
Thank you. It's what it is. It's how our world works. Unless someone is able to go through similar experiences they might not know how it feels. It's futile to control how we want others to feel, it just won't work
People change over time and I agree that everyone has different views. It's hard to know someone when you don't know everything about them and that is why we base things on opinions. As we change, so does our perspective and theirs as well.
You're definitely right about this. Well I think people base their judgement on what they can immediately see and perceive and most times don't even bother to check further
I think it is good that we evolve and change over time. I think drinking and womanising is a pursuit of the young when looking for a partner. Although excessive drinking is never good.
I am an open person, but sometimes do not want to reveal too much as we don't know how that information will be used. AI in the future might become very powerful and use information in the public domain in nefarious ways.
I am asking sone similar questions to myself these days and thinking about how people perceive me. I am trying not to worry as much about how people perceive me because I’ve actually completely debilitated myself by doing so much of this. It’s led to a near complete falling out with certain family members but I’m ok with that.
I understand the desire to hide things and avoid negative consequences from people but as for someone who had a history that they are ashamed of, I don’t think they need to feel ashamed as long as they are striving to become someone they can be more proud of.
The whole world won’t see it this way but I think the only ones worth worry about are the ones who will try to sabotage you, and if you are proud and compassionate you may find supporters who will protect you from them
Hope you are doing ok
Well you're right. In my own situation It's easy to predict a lot of what many people perceive of me. It's been like this since I was a child and just like you, extended family members are the worst.
However, I can't control whatever they think of me, and I don't mind. I'm striving harder to be better, I can't say much of these people. At least from what I know, I don't see them improve in the way they do their criticism, they've been the same way.
I can only do what I can. Life makes it hard, but sometimes some people just can't control what others think of them. I've given up telling people that I'm not what they think I am. My path in life is different now and I'll do the best I can.
Thank you, I'm doing my best for myself