Do Not Compare Yourself

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I grew up being compared most of the time by my dad, as long as I can remember we the children were being compared to other relatives children even though we never knew them.

I remember this one in particular, a strange person went to a cousins house while her parents were not around and said her dad sent him to come take their television, while he was in the sitting room trying to get the tv she quickly went to take her phone to call her dad to confirm and her dad said he never called anyone to do that, she quickly alerted her neighbors that a thief was in their house who is currently trying to take their tv saying her dad sent him while her dad never did and that was how the thief was caught, that evening when my dad came back that was the topic of the night we were being compared to her, his words she's way smarter than us in every way. I still remember it, how everything we did were being compared with her, how she was the perfect child and we his children wasn't.

And later on I grew up hating myself on how I wasn't better, having no confidence in myself, self looting myself, I grew up having it because we never for once got appreciated for something we did only faults were seen and it did have a big impact on my mental health, I'm sure it still does. I'm sure i to have compared myself among my pears at some point in time and there was always an impact mentally.

One of the impacts it had on me was lack of self confidence. I never had confidence in myself even when others believed in me I never did, sometimes it feels like it's constantly played in my head there are times i feel confident and suddenly I'm back to not confident at all. The thing with comparing yourself to others, we feel the person is better than we are which is not true, we too are better but we don't see that, it's common among Nigerian parents they always do this to their children even when their child it's at their best they will always look for who to compare their child with.

To me comparing yourself or your child with someone is wrong, even if you feel they are not doing right, comparing them should not be the best option, rather talking to them on ways they can improve and also help them improve as well.

This is my entry into #Augustinleopromptday13

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