Hear Me Out...

I’ve been accused of being patronising once. At that time, I found it very affronting and was immediately on the defensive. Why would anyone think I’m patronising? And so, I asked the person who thought I was being patronising to tell me why, and he said that I explain things to the tee. I break things down to him in a way that is nearly condescending. Like I am speaking to a five year old. He found it insulting, and after thinking about it, I figured that he may have had a point.

Writing is my escape route, so I don’t find it hard communicating my thoughts through writing. It’s one of the reasons I appreciate comments. You need to know that your thoughts and messages are being passed in a way that completely reflects what you want it to reflect. And so, I just love when I make a publication, and I have people resonate with it, find it relatable, maybe even have objections or a different point of view.

Most times, we’re comfortable with communication only when it favours us. Only when all parties are in support of what we’re saying, but then when people act up, when someone has refused to see your point of view, or worse, when your words are completely misconstrued and twisted in a way that paints you in a negative light, what happens then? It’s why I love the Hive Blockchain within my space. Of course I’ve witnessed the not-so-savoury moments and rage offs, but there’s no platform without its down sides. I should say Hive is really great for keeping these things at a minimum which you may not find in a lot of other places.

I think there’s a chance to be more misconstrued in my communications when it’s away from the writing space because you know then that it’s not just your words on paper that's at play. Gestures, mannerisms, facial expression, tone, and so on. It’s a whole lot, but I try as much as possible to make communication work for me in my personal life.

I will admit that I’m not the best at it. I can seem very closed off when it feels like it's an argument and explaining myself is not worth it. And sometimes even when I know that it is worth it, I feel stressed out at the thought of talking in totality, so I remain quiet. Not the best, I know. But I’m getting better at communicating my thoughts, and hoping who I’m talking to sees what I’m trying to say. Of course, there are also cases where I don’t bother communicating because I’ve vetted someone and that person is the type to resort to insults, unsavoury and unrelated statements. So, being one who chooses not to do something so tacky as trade insults, I remain calm and simply ignore.

Communication could be tricky depending on who is involved. But I try to always make sure the person I’m communicating with gets me, and since it’s a two-way street, I make sure to listen as well and keep an open mind about everything. I put aside my reservations, as difficult as it is, and try to see if I can make sense of where the person is coming from.

Anyway, I love that I got to talk about this. My life in the past week has been a rollercoaster of events and even now, my life is unfolding in such a way that I know I have to be intentional if I want to keep up and remain afloat. I should be worried at how fast paced things are going, but I know I only need a bit of communication laced with intentionality and I’m good. Have a lovely week, everyone.

Jhymi🖤

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