Well Prepared to settle

Marriage is a commitment and whoever enter into it needs to be well prepared physically, emotionally, mentally socially,psychologically and spiritually. We need to have a logical mind so that in every battle and challenges we faced everyday, we will not be easily or totally blocked out and find ourselves broken and quitting.
"For better or for worst, till death do us part." and the word "I do" is not just a script but a commitment.

Marriage is when two become one. In all aspect of our journey as husband and wife, we are accountable to each other. In every problem, every celebration, every decision, in every thing...

I remember the three things our mentor shared during a couple gathering in our church. He said, a lot of couples starts with emotional attachment. That is why, a few months later, they quit and look for something like vices and someone that satisfy what they just want to do. No commitment, only pleasure.

In marriage we need the three things to make sure we passed the everyday's test in our marriage life:

1. Love God first. Commit unto the Lord every decision we make. Rely in His grace, rely in His ways and rely in His mercy. Meaning, we fear to do things against God and do things that is pleasant in His sight. Pray for your family's protection, pray for their health, pray for their spiritual growth. And most of all pray for everyday's healing. That every day, they see and experience God's love through us. In this way, when conflict comes, we are well-prepared to manage it.

2. Love yourself. Hiw can we love others if we don't love ourselves? if we hate life? If we rely to someone to love us? Loving ourselves is when we are well-equipped. We have a stable relationship to God, we have a stable job and a stable mind. If one of these three is missing, surely we will fail to do our commitment. We can't share what we don't have, that's reality.

3. Love your husband/wife as you love yourself. We can't love genuinely if we fail to love ourselves first. Love is not an emotion, it is an action word. Love is when you keep choosing your husband/wife despite of his weaknesses. Expect the unexpected when we already married. Marriage is full of conflict but if our love is genuine, we learn how to manage conflict.

Three days ago, I attended a wedding and I am so impressed how this young couple prepared for their special day. And every one who speaks and share their thoughts about marriage in this young couple, speaks about marriage is a commitment not just hosting an event. An old man shared, that in their marriage life of his wife for thirty five years, he keeps in his mind the true meaning of ATM which is "Automatic to Misis".

Photo below were taken in the wedding reception two days ago. Thank you and God bless us all! Fight the good fight😁