When we first dreamed
Sometimes I look back at the crazy desires I had as a child, and I'll find myself laughing. But the truth is that if I had become everything that I dreamt to be, I'd probably be among the top 10 richest people in the world, because my dreams were indeed crazy, but they made sense still.
As a child, I loved the art world so very much. I loved to dance, and I participated in dramas too. To top it all, I loved reading books, and I was blessed with the wonderful talent of writing. There were so many things that I could've become if my parents, especially my dad had allowed it, seeing that I was born in the era when parents dictated the lives their children would live.
My dad wanted me to be a cardiologist. His reasons being that I was brilliant, and I loved watching medical K-drama movies, but what he failed to understand was that I watched those movies so I could improve my acting skills, and when I tried to explain to him, it was dismissed as the naive thoughts of a child.
I have never forgotten the time his best friend read one of the many stories that I had written as a child, and suggested taking me with him as he was traveling out of the country, my dad turned down the offer, saying I was just a young girl with too many imaginations that I had confused for dreams. Looking back to that time, if it was in my power, I would've left with the man, because since then he has been living a good life in Florida, and I'm pretty sure that by now, I would've become a famous writer I had dreamed to be.
On the quest to cheat my dad, and fulfill my dreams, I even lied about being into the sciences at school, while I did arts, but still he found out after I had already taken my JAMB examination, and was preparing for the WAEC and NECO exams. He chose that day to visit the school, and he discovered the truth. As punishment, I had to repeat classes and take science exams which I still passed.
But in the end, none of those dreams were fulfilled. Both mine and his dreams for me, none of them were fulfilled.
I couldn't be the actress I dreamt of being, I couldn't become the famous writer I had wanted to become, I still couldn't become the dancer/musician that I loved so much, and I couldn't also become the cardiologist that he wanted me to become.
Every time, I would blame him for taking my dreams away from me, but I made peace with that because I came to understand that there was no other way for it to be done. If he had let me go on with what I had wanted, maybe people would've said he wasn't giving me a good upbringing.
All of these are the reasons why I don't support parents dictating their children's lives. And I've decided a long time ago that I'll support my children as long as they've decided to indulge in something legal and good. I won't take away their dreams, because some things can never be recovered when they're lost, especially childhood dreams.
Every person's childhood is such a silent memory that if remembered, those childhood days are remembered in which there is no worry, no tension about money, no other work, being busy with games and if you need something, you tell your parents that I want this thing. But as soon as we grow up, all our childhood dreams are shattered. Now we have to work hard and strive to fulfill our dreams, but unfortunately, those dreams of ours remain unfulfilled.
Beautifully said...all we have to do now is work towards being a better version of what we had dreamed of
It's real life and we have to do it to have a good life
Parents should not dictate what their kids go into when it comes to things like this, I think kids should be allowed to follow their heart.
You're right and I totally agree with you
Kids should be allowed to follow their heart
I had my fair share of this dictation but it wasn't even from my parents and I can totally relate to why you don't support parents dictating their children's lives.
!HBIT
The whole parents dictating their children's lives isn't really the best option... thanks for reading 😊
The best thing is that you understood this pain and took a decision to support your children in their dreams and just with this thought a new era begins and salute to your strength and your style of writing.
I'll support my children in their dreams. It's only right that I do that.
Thanks for the kind words 😊
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