WE258 || Before romanticizing a couple's relationship...

Love is not a passive feeling, and acting it out in married life is a daily practice, with the firm intention of cultivating connection, intimacy and pleasure.

We have to look at ourselves with a double magnifying glass 🔎🔍 because, when by your own choice you decide to live with him or her...

You choose a lifestyle. Why a married lifestyle?

Because, you are not only choosing who to share the bed with, the special dates you are sharing with whom to share life and form a team. So, in addition to respect, commitment, responsibility in the relationship and there is a lot of fabric to tell, you also choose:

• What is talked about and what is kept quiet, maybe secrets that we often think are going to the grave with us.

• How to fight and how to repair, because desire matters, love also, but they alone are not going to build the relationship.

• How do you rest because you choose their habits and their values more than the person.

• That, how and when it is celebrated and that it is ignored from him or her.

• That's why, regardless of whether we like him or her, we have to observe... how does he live? What is it that normalizes? What are you running away from? What patterns do you repeat? Do you know, why? Because sooner or later you are going to live it too.

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But since you are also a couple, it really pays to look at each other with the same magnifying glass.

There is a truth that never changes:

-Your essential habits and which ones are not, the values that are also part of the same package, that is, how you eat, talk, decide, how you handle money, the.pleasure, frustration, what you avoid and also what you hold. As well as that part of your lifestyle is hard to share.

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Spend time for fun and pleasure together, for example: a walk together, cooking something special rekindles the spark and strengthens the friendship in the couple, a key pillar for lasting love.

Last but not least, @galenkp, before taking the step of choosing married life, it is good to be clear about the type of relationship you want to have and what you are doing to get closer to that, to love with all your being and being.

Janitze 🌹

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The images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the eighties Rolleiflex 2.8f camera, and edited with [Canva] ( https://www.canva.com /)

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