Friendship is pure

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Friends are one of the most valuable people who exist in this world. After the family members, they are the most important person for us. Even for some, they can be more than family members for some people depending on the situation although for me family members are my priority but friends are also important for me. I believe that with friends life is more enjoyable. And without friends life can be very boring.

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I was introverted in my childhood and till XII class It was the same. So, from my childhood, I hardly talked to others when it was necessary. Besides in my 11 years of school life, I changed 5 schools and for that reason, I had never a friend circle. It's very natural to have at least one friend circle in life like a gang. But I never had such kind of circle in my life but I made some good friends in my life who are more precious than those so-called friend circles or gangs.

To be honest I am very selective and careful in the case of choosing a friend and I consider almost everything before choosing one although I know friendship happens automatically. I was just extra cautious in case of friendship nothing else. I think because of being more cautious about It, many one left me although I never regret it because it's better having no friends rather than having many fake friends.

In my 25 years of life, I have only very few true real friends. But it's more than enough for me. Some of them became my friend because of their good personalities and character and I don't care about the academic things. Some became my friend because It was destiny and I have some special friends in my life who think like me and take decisions like me. They are very special to me and I think we are the same and it's not possible to isolate our souls from each other. Those special friends play a very important role whenever in the case when I get mentally disturbed.

Honestly, I talk with most of my friends rarely, and most of them currently stay far from me because of educational purposes in different places in our country. Even though we talk rarely but we feel a special connection between us whenever we talk. I think you also feel the same when you talk to your friends.

One question may be coming to your mind that there exist many people in this world and why do only a few of them become my friend? And what is the benefit?

The answer is quite simple. I feel a special connection with them and they also feel the same and for me, it's enough to be friends. Besides, friendships are not made based on any condition and I think in the case of friendship we should not expect the benefit from it because it's a pure thing and we should not add desire in that pure relation. But it's true that some benefits come automatically but expecting benefits from friendship is not the right thing.

As a friend of theirs, I have a helpful mentality and I try my best to help them whenever they need and all of my friends try to do the same thing. Bad times and good times are part of our life and we can't avoid our bad times. All of my friends support me all the time and I am confident that in the future if I face bad times they will stay by my side. I will do the same even if any one of my friends faces a bad situation. Friendship is like a barrier which protects us from danger and our bad times.

It's true that there exist many people who pretend to be our friends but they are actually not and sometimes they turned out our enemies also. So we need to be careful about it. In my case, I am confident that nothing would happen because all of my friends are proven ones even if I have very few friends and those friends are enough to enjoy life and share my feelings with them.



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Not everyone can be your foe likewise not everyone can merit a friend. Selecting a real friend is problematic when you are an extrovert but as you remain within your shell so in my view you would be approached by multiple. But your vibe match might have gifted you good friends. So I would categorize interest and vibe as the factor which becomes supervisor while searching for real-life friends.

It's been 10 years of friendship with my only bestie Khaula hehe might yours would be younger in this friendship span.

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I was an introvert type of person and it really helped me to select real friends although friendships were made automatically. Although I am a combo type of person but my past experience helps me to understand who is good for me and who is not as a friend.

It's been 10 years of friendship with my only bestie Khaula hehe might yours would be younger in this friendship span.

I have two friends also and they are my friends for approximately 10 years.
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Why all the writers are introverted hehe just a random thought 😁 well you are superior than me for having good friends does the gender bias is involved here? as I think that girls can only have one bestie in their life !LOL

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Why all the writers are introverted

Maybe they can organize their thoughts much better than others. At the current time, I don't belong to introverts only. I am a combo type and I can switch from introvert to extrovert or extrovert to introvert depending on the situation. It's good for me.

does the gender bias is involved here?

From my side there I don't think that gender matters in the case of friendship. But because of tradition, many females think that a male expects more from friendship. I can't blame them also for it because it mostly happens. But I don't like that kind of mentality of theirs and that restricts me to make them friends. ( I want to be on the safe side😂😂) . So I have only one female friend among those my real friends and I shared about her once here. You can read about her if you want. Here it is.

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you explained what friendship is perfectly.... You do not have to be in constant communication to proof that you are a good friend. Just show up for me when i need you is enough

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Friendship is magical and we can feel a special connection whenever we talk. Once a true friend always be a true friend doesn't matter whether we communicate with each other on a regular basis or not.
!PIZZA

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No jokes.. friendship is really magical

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I also use to be an introvert, am just getting out of my shell gradually, so I make less friends, and most of them are online.
Just as you've said, we should be careful of the kind of friends we keep, because it defines who we are.

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Having online friends is good and I appreciate it also but at some point in life, you need some real-life friends around you and online friends can't take the place of it. So try to make some friends in real life also.

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