Comparison, another way of humiliation

Every human is unique because of their thoughts. Comparison only applies to some humans because comparison should be done at an equal level. Instead of it, most of us do compare with others. Sometimes we can compare ourselves with others, and sometimes other people do it with us. Is it a good practice or not? I am going to discuss it.

To be honest, comparison can be positive or negative, depending on how we use it. But it's unfortunate that almost all of us use it negatively, and in rare cases, we can see someone using it positively. At least I haven't seen anyone using it positively.

Comparison has started since our childhood. And our parents are reasonable for it because they compare their children with others. At the beginning, it's not a problem, but especially when it comes to the academic case, we can see the worst situation for the comparison.

Parents want to see their child among the top, and having the desire is very natural. If their child fails to come in first, they start to compare their child with the topper. I have heard many times parents say, "You are receiving the same facilities as the topper. If he (topper) becomes the topper, then why are you not the topper?". I feel it's a very weird kind of question, and parents do it to humiliate their child, and I think they don't deserve to say so.

Comparing two students is unreasonable because two students never receive facilities, even if the parents demand they be given the same facilities. Moreover, facilities are not the only thing to consider in this case. In such a scenario, I think parents can be blamed because their guidelines also create differences between students. Maybe their guidelines are not as good as those of the parents of the topper. Who knows? I'm just saying that humulating students by comparing is not good, and I don't think it can bring any benefit either. I think parents can use comparison in positive ways, although they don't go for it. I think parents can say, "Being the topper is not so difficult. You can also be the topper if you work hard, and we hope you can be the topper." In that way, a student can be inspired, and that should be the case.

After academic life, people start to compare one with another based on their earnings. It can be the reason for jealousy, and it's not a good thing. Rather than feeling jealous, we can also see it as inspiration. What if one thinks that if someone can make more money, he can also make it? That's the positive intention, and that's what creates the differences.

At the beginning, I said humans are unique and comparison is not ideal, especially when it is used for humiliation, but it's good if it's a source of inspiration. In most cases, it is used to humiliate others, so I would love to consider it a bad practice, and we should try to avoid it. We need to keep in mind that we are not the same. Our talent can be different, and we need to understand it. Instead of those negative impacts, I hope that we will be able to use the comparison in positive ways.