The Hurt of Betrayal

We all trust and believe in people, as humans we are relational in nature and we cannot live in isolation. This nature of man has made us to interact with others and over time we begin to share a bond with them and they become a part of us.

I will be discussing on the subject matter 'betrayal'. I know you might ask why betrayal? As humans we are more concerned with socially acceptable values like honesty, respect, hard work, trust, contentment and courage. The aforementioned values are what we want to see in the society but we should all know that not all of us will have these good values.

To betray for me simply means to break the trust someone had in you. I believe that betrayal is not about the big actions that hurt us but those little negative actions that we over look as not being hurtful or acts of betrayal can even hurt more than the ones we feel is a grave offense. Going late for an appointment is an act of betrayal. You agreed to meet someone at a stimulated time but at the end of the day you are an hour late to the appointment. That is an act of betrayal. The person had trusted you to come early for the meeting and you have betrayed the individual by going late to the appointment.

Betrayal is in levels, there are some betrayal we easily forgive and don't regard as serious but there are some that hurt us and leave an indelible mark in our hearts. We sometimes struggle to come to terms with the person who betrayed us and they come some what an external enemy. We might not hate the person but we are now careful with our dealings with them. Betrayal is something no one should experience. The emotional damage is so devastating, it can lead to mental issues if not properly handled.

People see betrayal as what one should be able to cope one or that it's not a big deal. I remember being betrayed by a person who I called a friend. I discussed a business plan with her and she was so captivated by my business idea. She promised to invest in the business. She even added some ideas to my own ideas and I felt the business was going to be a model for other to follow. She asked for a copy of the business plan for her to go and study it. I happily gave it to her. Two weeks later , my friend had started the same business I had shared with her. I felt so heartbroken and I couldn't believe a friend I had known for ten years could betray me.

The hurt was so devastating that for days I couldn't eat. I was not pained because she took my business plan and worked with it. I was hurt because this was someone that we would share a plate of food together. I began to think of those times she would make fruit juice and will share it with me. If she could betray me this way , she could have poisoned me if she wanted. She later apologized but our friendship had ended.

As we relate with others around us, let us all be careful that we don't hurt them. An act of betrayal might just be a little act which we think is insignificant but to the other person it is heartbreaking. Let's know that betrayal can damage an individual for a lifetime. Let us all be careful as we relate with one another.

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