Giving Things Time [Patience]
"If you sit on the question long enough, the answer will find you."
When something bothers me or an unexpected thing comes up, I often mull things over and over in my mind, silently debating, deliberating, and arguing with myself about this or that. My mind would play scenarios too.
Each time I try to make a decision and discouraging thoughts arise, and I find myself back to square one, and then I feel anxious all over again. It gets frustrating. And if I couldn't hold it any longer, I would act rashly.
Well, that was the usual process, anyway. Then the above wisdom came to my attention, and it hit me, I gotta give things time and be more patient. And that is what I have been practicing recently. I would mentally remind myself to calm down and think things through thoroughly, and not force it when nothing clear is coming out. I'd say, "Tomorrow is another day," to keep myself less anxious.
The thing is that sometimes, I want to get on with things right away. I want answers to questions now. I like solutions to problems soon. Anxiousness builds up when things remain unsettled. It makes me uncomfortable.
My upbringing might have something to do with it. Growing up, I observed that my parents rarely postponed things. When they plan to do something, it gets done soonest. They wouldn't say, "Let's wait until next week." When a problem arises, they would sit down and discuss it, and when a solution is decided, they would apply it soon after. Looking back, "later" was seldom spoken in our household.
I know those were a different thing, but it influenced me somehow. So waiting hasn't been my strong suit ever since, because my patience can be very short, although it can surprisingly be miles long at other times.
These days, I would ask myself, "Can I not wait if it would give me a better deal?" If I get some tense feelings, I would think things through again. Otherwise, I would interpret it as a 'Yes' and would enjoy the wait, letting time take its course.
Through one of my biggest dilemmas over the last few months, I realized that waiting patiently in quiet contemplation will likely provide clarity and a better answer or present a good solution to whatever concern I have.
I have a long way to go in developing my mental or emotional fortitude, but I am working on it and am willing to give it time.
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Patient is important in our lives, been so anxious most times don't solve any problem rather it worsen it but patient bring those things we long expected at ease, so it better to have patient
You're right about that. It's why it is important to cultivate it :)
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STOPComplicated thoughts. I think in some cases it's good to wait patiently and in some cases it's good to do it immediately. It depends on situation but we can't stop worrying and that's the reality
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That's true, Inti. Not everything takes time. Some are more urgent than others.
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Patience really is a skill that takes practice. Sometimes the best answers come when we stop forcing them and let things unfold by itself. Giving time room to work
True that, Princess. Sometimes, when we try to force answers, the more they elude us.
If only we have that much patience to wait sis pero minsan gusto natin mg ok na agad e. Minsan Hindi Rin ako makapaghintay e.😐
Yes, sis. Most times, ganon ako. Kung pwede ngayon na lahat, haha
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I can totally relate to this. Sometimes rushing only makes things harder, but giving time really does bring clarity. Patience is not easy, but it surely pays off.
Yes. I'm glad you can relate with it, thank you.
I read somewhere that we ought to wait things come to us more than we go out to get them. I still don't understand much of the wisdom, especially knowing when to apply this wisdom or not. But I do believe that clarity cannot be forced into the present moment, it usually comes at its own time, when all other pieces of the puzzle have been put in place.
That's a wonderful wisdom. Maybe how or when to use it will come to you when you need it, hehe :)
And I agree. Clarity comes at its own time, when things are ready :)
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I'm like you, the same. Expecially when a problem comes I want the solution ASAP, and it really hurts my nerves if it's dependant on other people and they take too much time
Oh, I feel you on this. If it were only possible, I'd do everything by myself, lol!
Sometimes we want to make decisions in a hurry, but in reality, many answers are hidden in the waiting. Your thoughts are very beautiful. Best wishes to you.
Yes, yes. That's true. It's just crazy how sometimes, I dislike waiting😊
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