Complete Resignation
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Back in January, we were to adopt a newborn baby, but that was also when Mom's condition got worse. She was totally immobile (bedridden), so after mulling it over, I decided it wasn't the right time. The Farmboy really wanted to go for it, but when asked if he could take good care of the baby while I looked after my sick mother, he couldn't assure me. He himself had second thoughts, so in the end, we both agreed not yet.
When I shared the decision with Dad sometime in March, he was disappointed, saying we shouldn't have had second thoughts and taken the baby right away. Well, easy for you to say, but I wanted to spend a little more time with Mom, I said. He understood my point.
I mentioned the same thing to Mom, and she looked me in the eye and said we should wait. She believed we would have our own. It was as if she encouraged me not to lose faith. My hope was renewed. But then she left us in April. Along with my prayer for her to be at peace was a silent request for her to talk to God to give us our miracle.
Of course, we did our part too. We talked to the OB gynecologist in May, taking the necessary tests (both of us repeating the same tests we had years ago), and I also had therapy, following all advice and instructions to the letter. I can't even do laundry, but I did as I was told. Oh, how happy I was when my period got delayed for 45 days, but my joy was short-lived when the result was negative.
Six months later, and the answer is still a No.
So we decided to totally embrace things as they are and live one day at a time, without expecting anything. I have completely resigned my idea of becoming a mother to my own child, nor to another's. I started my DIY project, focused on enjoying moments with Yongi and the husband, and being lazy whenever I want, without any guilt.
And I feel a lot better.
No longer sobbing whenever my period comes. No more hurt ego feelings when asked why we don't have a child, or why we don't adopt one (we have the LilGuy). And yep, I can laugh genuinely when one of my naughty cousins calls me "barren."
And that has been one of the biggest decisions I've made, which turned my life around, especially in the emotional aspect. Thank you, Jane, for your question this week, which allowed me to share this lil story of mine. Please exclude this from your judging. It is a non-contest participation. Salamuch
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🥺 have you thought of surrogacy. I think that's like another option.
Don't lose hope! Easy for me to say, yes? But I think that's the only thing we can hold on to. Let me share a bit. My brother and my sister-in-law were married for like 7 years already. Earlier in their marriage my sister in law thought she's already pregnant. We thought so, too. She had delayed periods, feeling nausea, her belly got bigger showing symptoms of pregnancy. Only to be disappointed after visiting the OB when the doctor said she's not pregnant. To add salt to the wound, she's suffering from a disease that may hinder her from getting pregnant. They tried and tried, but after a couple of years they slowly accepted maybe it's not the time yet. They focused in their ministry and lifted everything to God. And just as they accepted they may not be able to have a child, my sister in law got sick. Had a cough that went on for weeks and some flu like symptoms so she went for a check up to the doctor. And in the time they least expect it, the prayer they've been praying for years was finally granted. She's pregnant! Now, my nephew is already 1 year old. Hope you find inspiration from their story. Don't lose hope. May be the answer for your prayers at the moment is to wait. We don't know until when but just be patient and be faithful, it will be granted in His perfect time.
Amen oooo God please
hugs sis... there are things that God would not allow because He knows what's best for you. But I have heard of many stories of miracles... We don't know what lies in the future...
Nothing is impossible with God let's keep trusting in him he will do
Wah. Balak nyo pla mag adopt ng baby. I think it wasn't the right time dahil sa nangyari sa mother mo, maybe it was a sign. But hopefully, dumating ang time, na real baby nyo talaga aalagaan nyo :)
I really want to include this in my judging hehe.. !LADY
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You're such a cheerful soul, no one would have guessed you were battling this. I'm sending you the biggest and warmest virtual !hug🤗
Hang in there lady, I'm rooting for you.
Thank you for sharing something so intimate and honest. You can feel the strength behind every decision you made: to care, to love, to let go, and to find yourself again. It’s not an easy path, and yet you walked through it with a clarity that truly moves.
I’m glad to read that you’re breathing lighter now, filling your life with presence instead of pressure, enjoying what is and honoring what was. Sometimes the miracle arrives in ways we don’t expect, and other times the real miracle is recovering our inner peace.
Sending you a respectful embrace. May this new cycle continue to hold you like this: one day at a time, with truth, with humor, and with the love that already lives in your home.
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Hmmmm, it's so heartwarming to see how you've embraced a new mindset towards the things surrounding you emotionally. You're stronger than you know. 🤗
Exactly
Your words touched my heart. Between all the words you wrote here, I can see the beautiful soul you are. ❤️
Sabi nga don't lose hope, in God's time. Pero ok na Rin sis at least settle na Yung mind mo at Hindi na Ng eexpect. Pero Malay natin. Minsan expect the unexpected😌♥️.
I can understand you, we had similar issues, in the end it came not searched... Adoption is not the only option if you can't, there is also medical assisted procreation, it's an other good option
In the end you gotta do what makes you stay well with yourself with no regrets
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I’ve been there too, sometimes just letting go and doing your own thing is way more freeing than you would expect.
It takes a lot of strength to reach this kind of acceptance. I’m glad you’ve found peace and happiness in the present.
Your journey is full of courage and strength. We often wish for many things in life, but in the end, only what is destined for us happens. It felt really good to hear how beautifully you managed to handle yourself through it all.
Not by our power but God gives so no man has right to call you names, I pass through same and I understand exactly what you have been through and am happy you are taking it light now that best option
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I've been very touched by your story, I was close to a friend of mine and she struggled really a lot for having a baby she doing cures and heard many doctor but the Baby don't come unfortunately, well not yet, having this kind of suffering scare me, I plan too to have a child in the next years and I'm scared to be not able to because I'm old. I agree that you must live day by day without letting the struggle destroy your mental health. A big hug from me