The Right one: Easy or Difficult?

Whoever came up with this wise saying that parents are the first teachers that their children learn from deserves to be honored for life because it is very accurate.

Growing up most of us looked at our parent's marriages and dreamed of having ours like them because some of our parents made marriage look so easy. They made it so easy that it felt like they just finished college and got married instantly without going through challenges.

Sometimes I wonder if they ever dated before meeting their partners, did they have numerous heartbreaks? How were they convinced that their partners were right for them and how are their marriages standing the test of time?

The usual advice is to finish High school, go to college and when you are ready to settle down you will find a “good partner”. How our parents made finding the right partner look easy is baffling.

While we all strive to build that beautiful home that we’ve ever wished for, most of us were not informed that finding this good partner to build this home with is going to be a very stressful journey, a journey of love, betrayal, pain, tears and you name it.

“Don’t worry you’ll find a good man” People always say this like a good man is seated in the market and waiting to be bought or a good man is handsomely sitting on a tree and waiting to be plucked.

We weren’t told about the numerous heartbreaks we were going to go through neither were we informed on the process of how to choose the right one.
“You’ll know the right one when you see him, you’ll just know”, Lol how many right ones have we thought were the right ones? While scientists are on it, can they create a formula to determine who the right one is? Trust me this would be the greatest invention the world has ever seen.

I think so many things were either lost in translation or we weren’t properly taught how the marriage institution works. A lot of people think marriage is just having a big wedding, having kids, wearing matching outfits, taking pictures for the gram and so many more.

Honestly, I feel like parents need to educate their children on most of these things but then again not everything can be taught because people are different and so are circumstances.

The number of people not believing in love and relationships is increasing rapidly as most people do not even have the basic knowledge of how a relationship or a marriage works. The rate of divorce today is alarming and it’s discouraging most young people from getting married.

The crazy thing about a relationship or marriage is that there is no manual that is all-encompassing to guide you on how to pick the right one or leave the wrong one. Relationship counselors and therapists are doing a great job but not all relationships or marriages can be fixed by their counsels.

This post was triggered by the conversation I had with my friend earlier today. We recounted our various dating experiences, phewww it’s been one hell of a ride. We couldn’t help but ask ourselves how we would know the right one and not to miss the right one while being with the wrong one. We finally advised ourselves that we weren’t going to overanalyze the whole marriage concept because there are so many variables to include in this particular equation.

We are hopeful that we will get it right but for now, our fingers are crossed and we are trusting the process😃

Getting home I couldn’t help but reflect on all we had spoken about today and my respect grew for couples who have stuck together for years.

To every couple out there who has been married for years I commend your bravery for sticking to your “right one”, you all the real MVPs and to everyone who belongs to the category of finding or figuring out the right one, just know that you are not alone, let’s not lose hope yet as I know we all shall get it right some day😃

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