The kind of marriage I want 😊

I want a marriage that feels like home, a safe place where I can always be myself. I want to wake up every day next to someone who truly sees me, not just for what I look like or what I do, but for who I really am on the inside. I want to feel loved even on the days I don’t feel my best. And I want to give that same love in return.

In the marriage I dream of, we talk about everything. We don’t hide things from each other or pretend everything is okay when it’s not. We speak kindly, even when we’re upset. We listen not just to reply, but to understand. If something is wrong, we sit down and talk through it together.theres no yelling or hurting words, Instead, we give each other space to express how we feel, and we work through problems like a team.

I want a marriage built on deep respect. We don’t have to be the same, but we respect our differences. If I have a dream, my partner supports me. If they have a dream, I support them too. We cheer each other on, whether it’s a new job, a personal goal, or something simple like starting something new. We never try to pull each other down. We lift each other up.

Trust is everything. I want to feel secure in my partner’s love, and I want them to feel secure in mine. I don’t want to worry about lies, cheating, or secrets. I want us to be honest, even when the truth is hard. I want to trust that we always have each other’s backs, no matter what life throws at us.

I also want a marriage that’s full of fun and laughter. Life can be hard, so I want us to enjoy the little things together dancing in the kitchen, taking silly pictures, or just watching movies. I want us to make happy memories, not just big ones like weddings or birthdays, but small everyday ones that make life sweet.

We don’t have to be serious all the time. We can play, joke, and act silly with each other. I want to laugh with my partner, even years after we’ve been married. I want us to keep dating each other, surprising each other, and finding joy in being together.

Another thing that matters to me is growing together. I know we will both change as the years go by, and I want a marriage that allows us to grow both as individuals and as a couple. We should support each other’s personal growth, whether it’s learning new skills, healing from past pain, or just becoming better people. Even when we grow in different ways, I want us to keep choosing each other, over and over again.

Faith and values matter too. Whether it’s in the way we raise our kids (if we have any), the way we handle money, or the way we treat others, I want us to agree on the important things. We don’t have to be perfect, but I want us to try. I want us to pray together, make plans together, and build a life that we both believe in.

I know marriage has its ups and downs, but I want someone who, even in the hard times, will look at me and say, '
We’ll face this together. Someone who reminds me that it’s not yet time to give up.

At long last, I want a partner who feels like my best friend, my teammate, my peace, and my biggest fan. I want to give them that same love too.
A marriage where both people feel safe, seen, valued, and loved, that’s the kind of marriage I want. One that’s not perfect, but real, and worth fighting for every single day