WHEN I SAY I LOVE YOU
When you say I love you to someone, what do you mean? Have you ever asked yourself that before? Or you just assume you know what you’re saying. We live in a word when people say things they don’t even mean. Well, that’s not the problem. The problem is that they say it and they don’t care its effect on those who hear them. Saying I love you is good. And I guess that’s why a lot of parents these days want their children to say it to them by saying it to them but for me, it goes beyond just saying you love me or I love you.
Words can be deceptive but never actions. People can lure themselves with words and that’s why it is a bit irrational to act based on what people say but that’s just how we are as humans. A lot of people make promises, say nice things about people but their actions says otherwise. As a young teenager, I almost fell victim of the so many sweet words from guys who only had just one agenda in mind. They would come to me with all the sweet words and enticing promises just to get me to fall for them but luckily for me, I was able to see through their words.
But hey, that’s not always the case is it? In most cases, young girls fall pry of these enticing words, all in the name of love. The interesting part? These guys understand that love is not in mere words but also in action so they always come with this last part, if you truly love me, then you will do this or that for me and same goes for the girls too. This is just to tell us how people have misused the word love a lot of times which now make so many people no longer believe in love. They now see love as a mere fantasy people wish for.
Well, love is something we show not say. It is after we have shown this love that we then say we truly love someone. Without works, it is impossible to prove that you truly love someone. Let’s say a person came to you for help as they don’t have anything to eat and instead of giving them food, you rather choose to sympathize with them with just words and giving them hope that food will come somehow. But later, you will be the first to say you love your neighbor or you are a good person. Well, that’s not how love works.
Another thing that love is not is that love doesn’t select who should be loved. We most times love people because we know what we can or are getting from such people. The moment that thing is no longer there, the love dies and that’s one reason why these days we hardly find people staying in their marriages. They had the wrong idea of love.
Love is not just a strong feeling of affection as our western dictionaries put it. Love is an action word. It is seen in the actions of people and not their words. If saying I love you is what makes you think you love someone, you are wrong. Love corrects. Love is not proud. Love is not self-seeking. Love is kind. Love is not provoked. Love does not rejoice at injustice. Love rejoices in truth. Love bears all things. So maybe the next time you want to say you love someone, remember this and be sincere with yourself if truly you love them.
This definition of love applies to everyone. Not just your wife or husband. Not only your father or mother. Your brother or sister. But everyone.
Thank you for reading through. ❤️
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Perfect description of how people display their "love" in practice. Arguably, it is one of the most overused words in modern history and people drop it casually without much thought behind it. I'm a bit hyper-conscious of this word that I hesitate to mention it, both verbally and written, in a sentence that starts with I. Usually default to using admire or some similar word.
Saying it is not bad. But just make sure your actions match your words and if you can’t, then it’s better to refrain from using it.
I like your style. That’s actually the best.
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Right, even when it's expected of me, I refrain from using it without first having the lived experience of the feeling. This word can't be diluted for nothing lol.
You're most welcome, HS :)
Yeah. That’s a wise thing to do. 😌
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My love language is helping people with their petty life-administration, and I didn't even know it, until my closest friend told me. I helped her sister with her tax. I helped another friend re-do their clothesline yesterday.
I helped them inspect houses when they were looking to buy a place to live.
Love is done in small gestures. Picking up someone from the hospital. Giving them your food. Preparing a meal for them.
Being present. Not keeping score. I am so gosh darn grateful for my close friends, and I couldn't be luckier to love, and to be loved by them all.
And that’s just how it works. It’s in the small actions. The insignificant things as some see it.
Keep being lovely, Holo. 🌹❤️
Interesting that this is coming from a lady. You are a rare breed along women. Many of them prefer the soft endearing words, even if the actions don't match.
One of the reasons I'm not the lady's men is probably because I prefer to show my love in actions, hardly in words. I don't believe in empty words. I feel hollow when I say them without meaning them. Would you prefer those 3 words even though I'm hurting you deliberately?
Yes. I know sometimes you need to say those words out. This is what I've come to understand with women. Even though I show mine with actions, it still feels weird to me saying it. But you gotta do what you gotta do for the one you love if it makes them happy.
I don’t know how I became this breed but I’m grateful for it.
There are a lot of words that we say that we don’t mean and it’s really sad. But yeah, if that’s what makes them happy, it won’t hurt to just say it.
Thanks for your input, Shaid. ❤️
Hehehe.
Love is a choice. It is not a feeling and this is why it has been misconstrued to be something that can just end.
“I fell out of love…”
That’s not possible. True love isn’t something that ends. Why? Because it’s not just felt, it is backed by actions. It involves action.
Many times I use the illustration of Jesus to show this. But of course, we are human and can’t die for anyone. He didn’t feel like dying, yet He chose to die. Who would feel like going through a pain like that?
The world has poorly defined love. Love is choosing to even with the flaws, the darkness. A spouse chooses to love their partner even when they are angry at them. But once we see the whole picture of the person, their layers peeled back and demons unleashed, they no longer deserve our love. We “fall out of love”.
That’s unfortunate.
My dear, that’s just it. Being able to do something even when it’s hard and inconvenient for us is what shows us how much we love someone.
Thanks for your contribution, Rara. 🌹