WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE A DECISION
Making major decisions are hard but not as hard as we think they are, the only problem is the fact that we always want and wish to make the best decisions all the time and that makes it very hard to make some major decisions. Even as we all wish to make the best decisions, there are some people that take delight in making their own decisions which is good and that is why sometimes we hear people tell us not to tell them what to do.
In making decisions, it is always good to have confidence in ones choices and be prepared to take responsibility for it. Most times, some people go to others to give them advise on how to make a certain decision and if things doesn't go as proposed, they end up blaming whoever gave them the advice to make the decision they took.
We fail to realize that these people only have the power to suggest these decisions to us and it's left for us to still make the final decisions. Sometimes when someone tell me I shouldn't tell them what to do, it actually gives me joy to some extent because I've at least told them what I think is the best thing to do and it's now left for them to make the final call.
If there is one thing I do when making decisions it is always putting myself in a place to realize that whatever the decision turns out to be, it's going to be my responsibility to bear and no one else. Taking decisions is a person's sole responsibility, others can only advice but then you as a person will be the only one to bear the consequences although most times, others around you will also enjoy or suffer from your decisions as well.
Sometimes it takes me forever to make a major decision but then sometimes despite the time I take to make a decision, I always end up not making the right choices and I have to suffer for it. While other times, I'm so quick-witted when making decisions and it turns out okay for me and even those around me too. So looking at these two different scenarios, I've come to understand that sometimes it's not how long we take to make a decision but how well we do so now I just try to follow my instinct most of the time.
For a person who is tired of someone telling them what to do, I will easily make the decision of letting them be but then it's still in my place to still decide whether or not to tell them what they should do or not do. If I ever decide to let them be, it only means that I have told them severally about that particular thing and it's just wise to give them some time to reflect on things themselves and hope they make the right decision.
If my decision end up not going as I want it to, the only thing that comes to mind is preparing to face the consequences for it. I hate to say it but it feels like I'm always preparing for the worst in everything which is not so good but then it just helps me cope through everything easily. But lately I've come to learn that there are times when I should face these disappoinments squarely and not make it seem like I didn't make a mistake with my decision.
Whenever a person's wish is not to be told what to do and I as a person knows the repercussions of what he or she is doing and I listen to their wish and things end up going South, then I'd have myself to blame for it because I didn't look for a better way to explain to him or her why I wanted them to make a decision a particular way.
Naturally, so many of us has this part of us that hate being told what to do and I think that happens for a reason. We shouldn't always rely solely on what others have to say about something but then we shouldn't just outrightly shut anyone out from giving us their advise on things. With every choice we make, we should be ready to take responsibility for it squarely and not try to cast down the blame to anyone.
This is my response to the Hivelearners editional prompts and also a response to the Thinkers Corner prompt too.
Your reflections on decision-making are so relatable! It's a delicate balance between seeking advice and owning our choices. Your understanding that responsibility comes with decisions, whether they turn out well or not, is commendable. It's a journey of learning and growth. We all grapple with wanting autonomy but also valuing input. Your insights are valuable and show a mature perspective. Keep navigating those decisions with wisdom and self-awareness!
Thank you so much for your kind words friend, I'm so glad you could relate with my thoughts on this topic 🥰.
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It is natural to look for the best option when we make a decision and even if we do not like to be told what to do, it is not wrong to be open to receive advice, always remembering that we are the ones who are responsible and who must face the consequences of our decisions if something does not go as planned.
That's right, shunning Others ideas is not the best and also accepting every idea from people too is also not the best, we have to strike a good balance.
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I don't like those person who come forward to suggest me any kind of decision by their own except my family members. It's because most of people not only suggest but also want to take the decision given by them. And if not, they wait for the moment to pinch if taken decision goes wrong. Besides I don't love anyone interfere in my own matter until I ask for their suggestions.
Whether it be family or not, hearing out what people has to say is fine but then we should always make the final decision knowing that we will be the ones to bear the responsibility of those decisions mainly.
Like I said, no one likes to be told what to do but we always have some people who will always want to tell us their own opinions and if possible pin it on us.
Thank you so much for your contribution, in the end we shouldn't lose sight of our roles in bearing the consequences of any decisions we make, either good or bad.
I'm being stubborn with my decisions myself and most people are so flustered with my moves but indeed, the final decision rests on me and I should possess confidence in doing it.
Thanks for sharing.
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Yeah, it's fine to take pride in the decisions we make that's the only way we can bear the responsibility fully. Other's can give their thoughts but you are still the one to make the final call.
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I read in your post that some people may rely on the experiences of others in term of decision-making.
Firstly, If the decision fail, you are responsible for everything because you needs to scrutinize whatever advise you receive.
This is because what works for one may not work for another.
Yes you read that but I guess you didn't read the whole article because what you've said was exactly what I pointed out too 🥰.
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This is quite reflective and it just shows that getting ourselves prepared for the worst when making decisions is a very good approach to take. It's almost like you are ready to take both the good and any bad that will come out of that decision.
When it comes to deciding to hold yourself back from advising people because the person doesn't want the advice, it makes things even worse because you are seeing what they did wrong and you just can't say anything because they wouldn't even listen.
Well, there is always a limit to what we can do for people. If they won't take what we are giving, it would be left for us to hold our peace or go give it to someone else who appreciates it.
Yeah, it's always good to prepare for the good and bad and not just one of them.
People can be stubborn, I know that because I can be like that too. Most times I also end up asking myself what will I do if I were in that person's shoes.
We can only do so much for people, after all they are the ones going to be responsible more in the end, hehehe.
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Your submission on decision making is quite impressive and educative. Thanks for sharing
Thank you more for your kind words and feedback ❤️
You made a great point with the topic . It's okay to make a wrong decision sometimes without having anyone to blame, atleast you'll learn from your mistakes. That's the only way to grow, it's just for people to understand that there's always a two side to a coin.
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You're right, when one person gets lucky most of the time it means there is someone who is always unlucky with their decisions. As long as you get the head of a coin someone will have to take the tail.
Thank you so much for your beautiful contribution 🥰
Exactly!
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It's not easy to always nudge people around or tell them what to do consistently, some might mistake it for being too controlling or nagging whereas, in your mind, you want that person to do better.
I think there should be a limit to when to stop telling them what to do....every human being is blessed with a unique way of thinking and am sure that when things aren't working in their favor, paths will be switched.
This is just me...I can sleep over it for days waiting to grasp that particular idea that will strike my mind as the perfect answer to your quiet questions.
Making decisions should be based on long-term planning and short-term planning.
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You're right, they easily mistake it for being controlling and nagging. And like you rightly said, we all have it in us to make decisions for ourselves the only problem is we are not ready to take responsibility for our decisions.
Yeah, we have to strike a good balance when making decisions, it shouldn't be so long and it shouldn't also be in a hurry.
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Unfortunately, this is so true! 🤔
I hope folks wake up to reality because it's going to dawn on them.
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It will, I just wish no one should be in that kind of situation (myself included) 😃
Decision-making is not an easy thing to do, especially when you are on a two-dimensional road, and this is where seeking advice comes in.
However, when we tell people what we think and they don't listen, it is better to let experience lead them and hope they learn from it.
That's right in a case when it's hard to draw a conclusion, it's good to seek for advice from someone.
True, we should give them the chance to either change or learn from whatever comes.
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That's right. Advice is needed for us to move on, which is why no man is an island.
You have said all well. Have a great day. Hoppie.
You are actually the one who said it all, hehe.
You too dear, have a great weekend and sleep tight 🥰
Yeah, I sure will. I just started mine. Hehe ..
Be safe.
Interesting! Then I guess it's timely 😃
You too be safe 🥰
Whether we ask someone for advice or not, we are solely responsible for whatever decision we take. If we see it that way, then we would realise that we don't have to swallow every advice we are given blindly, and also not blame anyone if things don't go as expected.
That's just it, hehe.
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Personally I have issues with people who come to ask for advice and when it doesn't work out, they end up blaming you. Like I was on my own before you came to me. That is why whenever someone asks me for advice, my finishing statement is always 'you are you, so do you'. Thank you so much for this great job you did with the topic 💕
That's just it, so many people go to people for advise so they can have someone to blame when things don't go right.
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