BUILDING MY SELF CONFIDENCE

Fear is one thing that I wish I could take out of the way every single time but it always seems to be a partner with me on this journey of life. I have quite a lot of things that I fear due to my home training and some personal experiences but then from all of these fears that I have, the dominant one is the fear of starting something. I don't know, but there is this thing with me, no matter how good I may be at something, once there is an opportunity for me to give it a try, I just back out because I immediately start doubting myself.

This kind of fear is what people termed the fear of the unknown. If you are not patient with me, you might think I can't do something but thanks to some amazing people I've met in life, they've helped me realize that I have so many things I can do if only I can just take the first step. I have so many cases when I overcame my fear and took the first step and things turned out incredibly well. One of those times was when my sister told me about hive.

I'm an average student when it comes to academics and that's still because of this fear I have. I hardly ever believe in myself to do something well and once that happens, it takes God to bring me out of that shackles. Despite this, my sister always told me I was the most talented one in our family and she was always there to give me the right support at every time. She always made sure I take that first step because she knows that's pretty much all I needed.

About two years ago when she told me about hive I was skeptical about me doing well at hiving so I told her I wasn't interested and that she was better when it came to writing and reading so it wasn't for me. At that time, my sister was still trying to learn more about hive so she didn't pressure me at all to start and I was happy then. After few months, she told me about it again and this time, she was on my neck, lol. Though we weren't together, but she guided me online and taught me all I need to know to take that first step.

I took that first step and today this is how far I've gone overcoming that fear of the unknown! So today if there is any fear I wish doesn't exist in my life, it would be the fear of the unknown because I know if I don't have it, I'd be able to discover so many interesting things about myself. And these three things below are what I'd do if I'm not afraid of the unknown...

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I would attend more spaces on X and be a speaker in as many as possible! Hearing people speak on spaces without stammering is something that I find fascinating really. Despite the fact that I know how to talk a lot, I still easily get scared that something might go wrong if I ever try to speak on spaces. I've actually tried speaking in some spaces but then I still feel so scared every single time I try again.

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Also, if I'm not scared of the unknown, I'd never miss any opportunity to participate in different contest offline and even online. Recently I went for an event where so many games were played yet I could barely participate in one even though it was opened to all to participate in because of my fear.

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Lastly, when I know something, I won't be scared to share my thoughts about it to people (not knowledge related to gossip, lol). There are so many times when I know an answer to something but because I'm scared I might end up being wrong, I'd rather just keep it to myself. The struggle is real and I really hope to build my self confidence because I'm obviously not as confident in myself as I should be.

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I hope that now that I've spelled out what I'd do if I don't have this fear of the unknown, I'd continue to try to improve on myself even as I enter a new year. And I believe that one way to improve on this is by studying more and adding to what I've known. I believe the more I learn, the more I can overcome this fear completely.

This is my entry to one of the Hive Ghana weekly topic, and I'm so honored to have you read through.

Until next time, stay AWESOME and JIGGY!!!

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