RE: Did You Say Thankyou?
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Isn't this sadly the truth - we so often take for granted when the people we love best do something good, but frequently lambast them when they do something bad. How on Earth is that supposed to encourage good behavior? (and is discouraging bad behavior really enough?)
I've been trying in my own relationships to practice this more over the past few years - I try to compliment the good things people do even if they seem natural given the circumstances. "What do you want, a medal" is still default, but that's just rewarding good behavior with sarcasm and ridicule. Not ideal. :)
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Mum and I have had extensive conversations over the years though about how men (our respective husbands in particular, though we can no longer talk about Dad's failings 🤣) really like to vocalise when they do housework, which irritates us as it's not as if woman do a running commentary on every fucking thing they do Perhaps men get raised with more praise from their mothers for doing anything and this they expect it more? So 'what do you want, a fucking medal?' is my default voice when I come home to a clean house as if he's parted the red sea. That's something I'd expect he do if I'm out all day and he is home. A very fine line with the thankyou in a marriage I tell you🤣🤣🤣🤣
But. It's not as if I don't tell him I appreciate him on the whole. All the time. ❤️