RE: Emotion Fades.

I don't think we're built like that either, to tell you the truth. I think it takes tremendous effort and courage to do it, to invest, to know how to not lose yourself. is it worth it? I think sometimes, but I think it depends a lot on what you want out of life, if you're someone for whom a relationship is paramount, then obviously this discussion isn't for you. if you're in the other category, I guess it's worth assessing as frankly as you can how much you're apt to grow from a specific relationship and maybe that's worth it - I tend to think of it as leveraging the investment against your own potential future growth, not investing in the other specifically, but maybe i'm just wrong. who knows.

I don't think you're being selfish. what you said made a lot of sense to me:)