Reclaim Your Value: The Art of Making Yourself Scarce
There have been a time in our lives when we have been with people that we pour our heart ans energy to, and in return the refused to notice us. It might be just a friend who never cared text back, that crush who always takes your interest for granted, or even a workmate that see your efforts as not worth it.
You give them all your time and attention, but at the end you got nothing in return. It really hurts, doesn't it? But here is the one of the best secret to turn things around for your own good. If you really want their attention, stop giving them yours.
Make yourself scarce. You have to create that unusual tension by taking a step back. The reasons they are ignoring you is not their fault, it is just that you have been too available for them. You have been all over their faces everytimw that it has lowered your own value. If you want to change this narrative, give them some break, take a vacation form the chasing, pursue other meaningful things in life and watch how your worth will increase.
Let us just be real to ourselves. If you are the kind of person who always calls, texts, show up every time, it is certain that they will always take you for granted. That is just the nature of humans. If you are always in someone else's space, you become the background, just like the wallpaper on the wall, they might stop noticing you.
You might feel that being present shows that you care, but when you are too available, you value reduces. When you are always reaching out, you are not giving them the chance to feel your absence and passionately craving for your presence. This is the reason why they will always mess with you and diss you.
What is the perfect solution? Take a step away. This is not about playing game, this is about preserving your self-respect. By pulling back, you are just saying, you are valuable and not here to chase.
Making yourself scarce does not actually mean that you will disappear forever and just be cold, it means take out time to discover your own life. Focus on your purpose, aim to achieve a goal and be successful. Go and take on that new hobby that you have been wanting to try, spend time with people who brings out the vibe in you.
When you start shifting the energy to yourself, you start to glow. You turn out to become someone who others find interesting. You look confident and independent, not someone who always looks for validation form others. This positive shift of your life can be very powerful.
Suddenly, those people who have been ignoring you starts to wonder, where have you gone to? Why are you not reaching out? You don't know that absence have a way waking up people. It will always remind them of your value they are now feeling the space that you used to be.
Don't get me wrong, you are not playing hard to get, it is just about being the person who is hard for people to ignore. By taking yourself back, you not just giving them time to miss you, you are also giving yourself chance to grow. You are now investing more on your own worth, you are building a life that is so full and vibrant that others can help but just notice you.
Think of this like just a vacation from becoming a people pleaser. You are not actually running away, you are just claiming back your power. Whatever you have to do to regain this power just do it. Fill your own cup and let it overflow, and let your presence speak for itself.
One of the importance of this approach is that it is win-win. If the people that decide to ignore you come around, fine, things will change for good. If they don't come back, you are already building a good life for yourself that doesn't depend on the validation of others. Either way you are not too devalued because of overavailability. You are now valued not because you demanded it, but because you showed the world that you are worth it.
Go ahead, take a vacation from chasing people who don't want you. Make yourself scarce and let that your worth shine. You cannot keep living as someone's option; You are a treasure worth missing.
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