Milking From The Right Influence
Peer pressure is a term that has been in use for time immemorial. Parents are mostly careful of the kind of company their kids keep because that can either make them or break them. While growing up, my mother was fond of using the word like, "If your friends don't mislead you, no one will ever.". So we had more examples to give of people who were on different instances misled by their friends, but little was said of those whose friends led them into becoming something meaningful in life.
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Casting my mind to my young days I come to remember that I had only one girl as a friend as I wasn't that so much a friendship person. One of the days she told me that her Aunt told her to stop following me, when I heard that I wasn't so happy with what her Aunt said. Asking to know her reason for telling her girl not to keep company with me, she just told me that she referred her to some girls whose parents were well-to-do. Well, my dad passed on so early, so I wasn't of that high class, so maybe her aunt thought nothing good would come out of me. To me, I took that as a positive challenge and refrained from having more friends.
The days of my young age were more of a lonely one because I didn't even know what to be discussing all along with people. For those who got enlightened so early, they have many things they consider before making friends; some don't get to consider anything; they just let their parts open for anyone and largely depend on each other's temperament. Many parents will just be one-sided when it comes to those whom their kids should flow with, for instance, in my own case. And most times when we parents give instance to our kids, we tend to focus more on those that relatively have physical things to back it up.
It is so disheartening to let you know today that my friend's aunt gives examples to kids with me because she is a child teacher rather than the girl that was staying with her. As little as I was, I was encouraging my friend to learn some hand work to back up with her career. The family wanted her girl to be like her daughter; I got to achieve so much even before their girls. In our world today, the fact that we have bad peer pressure doesn't mean we don't have the positive peer pressure. Getting married too, I was so mindful of the kind of friends I flow with because with the experience I had, it tells me that I am not to move with anyone I meet.
Early enough I define my pursuit in life and did my best to work with it. I look for women who won't lead me into investing more in the material things rather than building a good home. Some years back I met some women with whom we share a similar vision and more, and we kept moving together. Some time last year, one of them told me of a place I could get some foodstuffs for a cheaper rate, as it was harvest time. I was so happy, so we sent for that food. To date, I am still enjoying them with my family; at least I don't have to be at the market regularly for food shopping since then. I remember telling another woman to embark on that shopping with us, and she refused. When things get so expensive in the market, she always wishes she had, as I told her.
It is very important that we be mindful of the company we keep; flowing more with people who have a similar vision to us will certainly help us have more achievement. My entry to the last edition for this week's contest.