It Was A Bitter One

So amazing that this year is coming to an end in few days, not too long we all wished ourselves a happy New Year and it is already coming to an end. I am so grateful to God for the life, sound health, sound mind and the provision of food. I said food provision because there are many who don't have something to eat and they go about begging but that's not the case with me.

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The year under review is one that has lots of memories with it some of which are pleasant and some of them were heart breaking which lead me ito asking lots of questions and wished I did things differently.

One major experience which left me heart broken was the two deaths that occurred in my husband's family. Prior to the deaths, my husband's siblings agreed that yearly we will becoming together to have a family time in April since that month holds lots of positive memories for us. April was the month my parents inlaw got married and they are already fifty years down the line and counting. As we made plans to travel this year after the Easter celebration because the Easter week we went for an outreach to a village then returned on Sunday. Trying to have some rest we got a call from a relative that one of the uncles passed on that Sunday early morning. Kai, this took a drastic change as we had to reschedule so as to be with the family. As it is in my husband's place, they don't allow corpse for too long. That same day I went over to the house with other family members returned the same day and next day again. One thing that almost caused a confusion was the wedding the family was having the next week. Monday morning we all went to be with the family and at some points we had to make some jokes to lighten the place. The bride to be Mom was there and we made jokes with her that she will be in her best that day, she made some negative statements which everyone around rebuked her.

Next day as we where preparing to go over to the mourning house we got a heart breaking call that made me cry like never before, the brides Mom was gone. All cry and prayers with name calling proved abortive, this one was the one that left a deep cut in my heart. The thoughts of what I should have done better didn't allow me to sleep for some days. This second death was so painful because she wasn't sick for days or something, just a slump after devotion in the morning and that was all.

As humans, there were things that have happened that we were already discussing and it was a thing that preoccupied my mind. One major thing I learnt is that this life is just nothing, there is nothing we should hold so dearly. I also learnt that I should love and relate with everyone with respect because I won't know when the last experience will be. Monday before the next day the woman passed on I was making some jokes with the son and he kept taking some funny pictures of me which the mother was there, when I showed her she laughed without knowing that it was the last between us.

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Another bitter experience I got from this is that we entered this world with nothing and we will go out with nothing so there is no need to brag with anything which we have acquired as though we are in total control of them.

One other lesson I will share with us is one of accountability. Being accountable is very important, let people know what is happening with us not to keep secrets unnecessarily. The woman got to inform the children about the wedding preparation and those who are holding what and what. She already wrote out how she want to attend to the guests and after her death those people came to report to the family about what she gave them to do. She was also able to tell the children of those who she paid for the wedding items and have not delivered. In this way things went smoothly to the shock of many including myself. Planning ahead is very important as no one was left to be in any sort of pressure everyone followed what she already wrote down.

We learn things in life which will help us advance our life as humans and in all we do it is very important to acknowledge the fact that we will not be here forever. This is my entry to the last edition of week 145 contest. Thank you for stopping by my blog