It Is Healthy When It Is Not To Prove Point
There is such a thing as healthy competition, but as I always say, the best person to compete with is yourself. Competition is one way to bring out the best in the competitors. It, in most cases when it is healthy, serves as a motivation to those involved or the spectators. I am one person out of many who shy away from competition because I feel that I am not good enough. One thing that helps me brace up is when I come in contact with someone one-on-one who tells me, Babes, you can do it, and the fellow is willing to work me through it.
In this present time I have seen people who engage in healthy competition and those who engage in unhealthy competition. Unhealthy in the sense that they want to be like the other person no matter what it will cost them. This set of people even goesto the point of borrowing so as to prove a point that they can also do it. Talking about unhealthy competition, there are those who just want to please others at the expense of what they can handle. In this case, when they get to suffer, those same people they are working to please will still question why they did what they did. Over the weekend the young boy told me he is preparing for a debate that is to take place on Wednesday this week, so this has helped him to put in all his best to make sure he makes it as one of the best.
I was so happy with what he told me, and I gave my support because I have picked him as an intelligent fellow.Overcoming this shyness and a sense of "I can't do it" to the place of "I can do it even when I try and fail; I can still try" is a good sign of growth for me. I have failed in several areas of life endeavor, but that didn't make me stop trying. So I strongly believe that engaging in healthy competition is one way to show that someone is growing.In venturing into competition, it is important to note that one has to discover his niche, that is to say, what one can do so well.
In discovering one's niche, it will help to minimize wasted efforts. What one is so good at, and he puts in the required effort, will yield more results than viral things. In this too, it is so important to also get to discover those that have done such a thing before, how they did it, their failures, and more. By so doing, one will reduce several mistakes because he will be working off the shoulders of those who have already succeeded.Competition becomes unhealthy and toxic when it is driven towards proving a point or showing off. To bring a balance here, it is so important to maintain a good balance in the sense that one has to critically examine what he can do and stick to it properly without minding what people will say.
Sometime last year my husband's friend came to the house to visit; as the discussion continued, he told us that we have stayed so long that we should consider changing. Deep within I wasn't happy but didn't want to respond so he won't feel insulted. Now, if we should follow his counsel so as to meet up with outside competition, we will go and rent a house that yearly we may go out of our way just to pay. Presently, this fellow is married and is still in his parents house. So which is better?
In a way of conclusion, engage in healthy competition because you can, not because of what people will say, because they can't stop saying it. My entrance to hive learners contest week 171. Thank you for reading
I agree. Knowing your strength and staying true to your own path makes competition healthy. Trying to please others or copy them only leads to frustration and unnecessary pressure.
Frustration promax my dear. It is well
Imagine, the advisor is still staying in his parents' house🤔 People can be funny sha.
I like your points, they are valid👍 Bringing out the best version in yourself is healthy.
Thank you!
My dear oooo, that is what amazed me. Thank you dear
You are welcome
Trying to prove a point or showing off when competing can be toxic and draining, too and if care isn’t taken, such an individual might lose it all in the process. Though the best competition is with ourselves, likewise we must be careful so we don’t go too far trying to overdo things when we know our capacity.
It is so toxic to engage in an unhealthy competition. We need to be very careful my dear. Thank you dear
Hmmm this life ennnn unhealthy competition is not good at all. Don't mind what others would say just focus on your and hear what the spirit is saying deep within you. Thanks for sharing
Yes dear, that is the most important
Lol that advisor must be asking for trouble, good you didn't respond to him. Just focus on being better in all the aspects you can be, it's not by living in the best places or houses as he thinks.
My dear oo, how I wish he advised himself first. You made a valid point,silence calms lots of storm. Thank you for responding
There is nothing about competition other than to prove a point. During my days in secondary school, we went to compete is activities like debate, football, quiz, spelling bee, brain teasers just to prove that our school was the best.
This resulted in hate speech between the schools around. And that's basically the product of competition.
And that's because the teachers don't put the point straight so students grow with wrong motive. I hope things are done in a different way
Very correct dear. Unhealthy competition brings about wasted efforts and we can not afford to waste our energy on something that will not benefit us. Or even compete because we want to prove a point to others.
Thanks for sharing
That's the point dear. Unfortunately that's the state of many people these days. Thank you for stopping by
That last example got me laughing. Well, I love what you use as a starting point, the best person to compete against is ourselves. Once we know we can do better and overcome any obstacle in front of us, we would do better.
My dad do say, don’t look at another person horse to determine your speed, working on oneself to get better is the best healthy competition
You're exactly right out best competition is with us not someone else. We should focus on our own growth.
Hehhehe, some people just love giving their mouth some ventilation. He is asking you to change apartment, how much is he contributing? 😂
Competition is good especially when our motives are good and we know what we are aiming at.
It's sad that in our day people misunderstood what competition is, they go extreme to prove unnecessary points and in the end regret for wasted time and resources