The Sting Of "I Told You So" and Choosing Words That Lift Instead: LOH #245

I know we have all been there making those mistakes feeling like there's a sinking pit in our stomach and we hear those four little words "I told you so". Those words can hit like a point you, don't they?

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It is not just about the words themselves, it is the tone, the implication on the way they make you feel exposed and judged in the deepest parts of your being. Though imagine when you already kicked yourself for a misstep and this word don't really help you psychologically. It wounds you, it increases your shame making you feel like you're not smart and foolish thing you have been caught red-handed in your failure.

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It's less about offering aliens and more about trying to claim superiority superiority the phrase that say i was the one that was right and you were the one that was wrong with the side of smuggliness that really feels constructive.

So when we mess up, what we need is support and encouragement or at least a little bit of nudge towards a better part. Not someone behind us that is trying to steal the show with their words or trying to harness our shortcoming. Those words don't inspire the good in us, rather it limits us, making our defenses or hesitant to take the risk again or try something new in that area.

Why would I say, I told you so to someone else? Hoestly I rather not for me. Life is too short for such a moment. Why someone stumbles, I want to be the person that offers the hands to bring him or her up. Mistakes are always part of human beings. They are how we learn cool and find our way.

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Instead of just pointing out to someone's error every time. With that smoke I told you so, I would rather say, "hey I know you've messed up, we all messed up sometime, but we can still figure this out, and I have been there" let us start this out together and try not to make the same mistake again.

Those doors bridge bridges not barriers the, truth is the world we choose to tell or say to people matters they can tear down or just lift up wound or heal when someone is already feeling the weight of their mistake piling on judgment only deepen their struggle but offering this kindness empathy or even just a listen here That is what sparks re-change. This is what helps someone dust themselves off and try again with a little more courage.

So now let's make an impact to retire to the soul from our vocabulary. Let's choose words that inspire. Which reminds us that mistakes aren't the end of the story, they are just plot twists.

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Life is too messy and beautiful for us to play the blame game, instead let's be the ones who show up with compassion, ready to cheer each other on top, on two ups and downs. Because in the end it's not about being right, it's about being there for each other.

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