When Life Stands at a Crossroad

Seeing this prompt topic reminds me of how much a lot of people usually like to run away or decide not to talk about this conversation among a lot of other topics that they love to avoid. I have heard people talk about it with a very low voice so that others will not hear about it, like it was a sort of poison, but yet, our young ladies are often the ones who face the consequences. Like I often say to my guys, I hate swimming because of the first bad experience I had, and even thinking about it usually brings a kind of fear to my mind. And in that scenario, that thought of fear that often comes to my mind made me think if it is the same fear that usually grips a lady's mind when they discover that they are pregnant but they are not expecting that pregnancy. That feeling can be so overwhelming if I think about it because it is like standing beside a swimming pool, knowingly fully that I cannot swim, but at the same time, I want to jump in.

And yes, my honest take on this abortion of a thing is not a direct no or yes. But to be sincere here, it is a personal decision that an individual feels, and it usually comes with fear and uncertainty of whether to abort or to leave, which is a full responsibility that such individual has to make. And this thing is also based on our culture. We are come from. There is this popular saying that some people usually say, We listen, we don't judge, but it is a lie. Those people will listen; they will also be the judge, and they will not give you any solution. If a lady tells her friend that she is pregnant, such friend will advise her to keep the baby but will never give any solution or helping hand, all in the name of “I have my own cross to carry.” While the rest will tell the lady to abort the pregnancy, you will never see them when she is passing through pain and her healing stages.

And above all, I believe that a lady should be fully ready if she wants to get pregnant. Because a child should not come to this world to suffer. A parent should never leave the rest of her life feeling bad for what they did, but yet, I also know that some pains and scars are meant to be covered up till the next life.

And if you ask me if the father should have a say, I will definitely say yes, but not the final say because he is not the only one that is involved; the woman is also involved because she is the bearer of that child, and she is the one that will go through all the risks involved. I was having this discussion with a friend some time ago, I can't recall, and I remember saying that if it comes to abortion, the lady should always have the upper say and that we men should not force the ladies against their will. Some might say the father is the head. Yes, yes, I believe that, but there should always be one-on-one discussion, and as for this abortion case, it is always the woman who usually bears all the consequences, so her voice should matter.

When I was serving, a student that stayed in the house I stayed in got pregnant twice for a guy before I finished my service; she aborted twice. Luckily for her, she was this lonely girl who didn't have many friends, but during this period one of the female corpers that also stayed in that house was close to her, and she was the one encouraging her because she needed support at that time and not a judge. Sometimes, this life throws at us some conditions that require love and a supporting hand.

And my final take on this is, like I said earlier, we men should always do better because all women are different, and doing abortion is not just a discussion; it is a critical condition of facing a crossroads of whether to remove it or not, and when a lady is at that junction, the best we can do is to speak good words rather than condemning her.

Thank you for reading.

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