Relationships in whatever form will always have their ups and downs, lovers quarrel and still makeup, siblings rival and still come together, but when relationships begin to threaten our peace and sanity, even down to our very lives then it has become toxic. But as insane as it sounds, people still find it very hard to leave toxic partners for the most damn of reasons, the reason isn't far-fetched from having to know someone, fall in love with them, even enjoy the best of life with them only for their true colors to start surfacing after all of those good moments, not that the red flags weren't visible at the onset, but we overlooked them thinking they are going to change only for them to get worst.

The most common being in marriages, it's no news to hear husband stabbing wives or vice verse during an heated argument, funny enough it might not even the toxic partner that do the stabbing but the one that has had to tolerate them, facing hurt shame, depression in the name of not wanting to break from the toxic relationship, not thinking about their wellness mentally and physically but more concerned with what people would say, the reason why I believe self love should be practiced by everyone before loving someone else, even the holy book say that "love your neighbour as you love yourself" when the love you give out to your partner isn't reciprocated, you should have yourself to live for again, don't let anyone gaslight you into feeling unworthy of love, you are worthy of love, and there would always be someone bester out there that would love, cherish and accept you, many victims of toxic relationship stay in such situations because they think they won't find someone better because of how they've been mentally and emotionally abused, I wish they know better that the world has so much more to offer them than depending on a toxic person for their happiness.

It is very disheartening for me to see my fellow gender suffer especially in the name of marriage, marriage is meant to be enjoyed not endured, I know it also has its challenges which they both should work together to overcome, but when your partner becomes your challenge, treating you like trash, abusing you both physically and emotionally and the very reason you chose to stay is that you are dependent on that man for all your financial needs then that's a huge problem for that woman, I have a friend who is currently passing through the same struggle, and she still doesn't see herself leaving because she says she don't know where to start from, and can't fend for herself talk more her daughter if she leaves the man that has turned her to a punching bag.

Women, before you go into marriage especially, be independent financially, and don't lose yourself in the name of marriage, some women give up their careers only to be ridiculed by the same man they thought they were sacrificing for. Know that you are an adult and should be responsible for yourself and your kids If you have one, giving you the confidence to walk away when you are not cherished anymore.

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