Being Intentional about Creating A Beautiful Marriage.

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This morning I stumbled on a post that got me so worried as to what extent we have made marriage look like. Most people have already made up their minds not to marry because of what they have either seen or heard. I actually grew up in a loving family, my Mum and Dad. I always wished that I would marry a man just like my Dad. Though I still had some things I never liked about my father, the fact that he hardly takes others' advice he feels his own advice is better than others. But every other thing was perfect. My Mum had no reason to be dragging another lady outside because of my Dads inability to be faithful. My Dad was faithful to my Mum till the day he died. We lived happily and I learnt from them too.

Marriage is a union between two matured people. I see no reason why most people enter into marriage when they are not even ready for marriage. You don't have a reason to marry yet you rush into marriage because you were either pushed into or you hurried into marriage because your friends are married and in the long run start causing pain and embarrassment to your partners. Marriage comes with a huge responsibility to Love and be faithful to your spouse. For the Men please Marry your kind. Love is not enough. Marry who you know you can be happy with. Marry your spec. Marry what you know you can stay with for the rest of your life. If you are polygamous you know that one woman will not be enough for you. It is during courtship that you should talk about that. Don't keep quiet the woman that will understand you and love you regardless will still marry you and accept another woman into her home rather than keep quiet and after one or two years of marriage you're already outside pursuing another woman therefore embarrassing your wife thereby causing her pains. Most of the men will even stop caring for the family because of another woman they just met outside. Forgetting that your wife is the only person that will be by your side in good times and in bad times. Most of the side chicks are just coming for what you have to offer at the time and once that is not there anymore whatever they taught they felt for you is over. It is only your wife that will stay with you whether Good or bad so the men should be intentional about making their marriages work rather than always being one of the reasons why your wife is going through pains and hurt.

For the women, Most of us when we get to age 20 and ripe for marriage we start having people coming in as suitors but you will hear a girls response like i am not ready to marry yet then when Age tells on us we now start going to drag another person's husband. It is wrong. We are unique and we should not be dragging what belongs to others. Build up yourself well, do not turn down prospective suitors thinking you're too young for marriage. Do not be too selective as a woman. Marry Right too. Marry a man you will be able to submit to. We women are also the reason why our husbands look outside. I see no reason why a man got attracted to you because of the way you dressed but immediately after marriage and after giving birth you turn to what your husband cannot comprehend anymore. Pregnancy is not a disease. Look good during and after pregnancy. Cook for your husbands, make them feel loved too. They too deserve to be loved, cared for, petted too; they are humans and they also deserve it. Give them peace and respect them then i tell you a Good Man will not have a reason to run after another woman except those ones that naturally their eyes will always be outside even if they have Gold inside.

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Husbands and wives should love and respect each other. Respect your spouse's feelings and emotions. It can be so hurting that as a woman you will have to be dragging your husband with another woman. As a woman, be submissive to your husband and as a Man Love your wife. If there is an issue in your marriage, settle it and dont start being unfaithful to your spouse so that it will bring problems in your family that will also affect your children's mindset. Let us restore marriage again.

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