Looking From A Distance; The Wrong Picture.
A lot of things aren't what we think they are but the fact that we are looking at things from afar makes us think otherwise. I am not the type who covets people's things but there are times when I admire people's success in life. Seeing people doing pretty well in life makes me happy, I derive inspiration from them and it fuels me to keep pushing hard.
I have a bad habit of admiring people from a distance, getting close to people because they are doing great in life is not my thing. I hate being looked down on so I always keep to my lane to avoid any form of disrespect, it's annoying to know a lot of successful people always have the mindset that people associate with them because they are successful.
When I moved to my new apartment, there was a tenant who owned two cars. His children were going to expensive schools, they were living large and I admire him because of how he cares for his family. We do exchange pleasantries and nothing more. I got to know that he is a politician and caretaker of huge properties in the city which explains how he funds the expensive lifestyle.
During the lockdown, his daughters needed my help with a setup on their phones and I was surprised to see the machines they were using. I teased them about it and they told me the phones were just a few days old. While we were lamenting, they were doing alright and I won't deny that I just want to become successful at all costs to make life easy for my family as well.
My admiration for him continued until an incident that happened.
I woke up on that faithful around 6 a.m. and left home for the farm but as I stepped out of the compound, some men approached me at the gate so I quickly shut the gate to prevent them from gaining entrance into the house.
They greeted me properly and said they came to see the rich tenant who lives in my compound. I told them to call his number but they gave an excuse I can't remember. They tried talking me into opening the gate but I didn't and just went to the farm.
I finished my stuff at the farm about an hour later and returned home to still find these people at the gate. It was a Saturday morning so I am not surprised that no one got out of the compound yet.
They came to me again and begged that they had to see him. It was an emergency this, it was an emergency that so I let one of them enter but as I was about to shut the gate, one of them brought out a gun. Immediately I saw it, I knew that was a great mistake but thinking about it again, they could have threatened me initially but didn't.
One of them told me to go to my flat and explained that they were police. They burst the man's flat and took him away, seeing his family cry broke my heart that morning.
I felt guilty because I didn't even know what was happening so I went to explain everything to the family and they took me as an enemy after. I carried the guilt in my heart for sometime until the same occurrence happened again. The other one happened at night, I rushed out to see where the noise was coming from and there were police with guns and the man was in handcuffs.
I was having a chat with an old tenant so I asked what was up with the man and she explained that he was a 419. I didn't believe it until someone related to him said it again.
The height of it was when he got arrested by EFCC one evening and I was surprised. I was like all the wealth this man flaunts is someone's else sweat, I felt very disappointed in him because things weren't what I thought they were.
Standing from afar didn't make me see the truth, this man had been arrested several times to date.
It's a good thing to take care of your family but not by duping people. All that glitters aren't truly gold and people like this have pushed their fellow humans who aren't contented with what they have to do silly things because of money.
There is a Yoruba adage that says, a dry morsel with peace of mind is better than a luxurious one with trouble.
I believe a lot in the adage but definitely not everyone does. A lot of people have succeeded in keeping the wealth they dubiously acquired but in many cases, more people have lost it all. Things are not what it seems for many people we admire whether openly or secretly, it's best to trust one's hustle and hope that we break through someday.
Thanks for reading.
It is normal to admire people based on what they have, we all desire good stuff but thinking they got what they have legitimately is wrong because most of them go to great lengths to acquire those wealth illegally.
A 4l9 or a thief won't advice it on their doorstop or be open about it.
Yeah, I wrong to have believed that he was doing a legit hustle and there wasn't any reason for me to doubt him.
Everything thing happened one fast and I got to see who he really was.
People are very cunning in hiding their identity. There is no need to pretend rich when you are poor. We should be real with our friends. Dear Farmer! It is really good because tenants were exposed to the Police before he did anything more wrong by pretending.
Yeah, it's a good thing that he was exposed because he might hurt others while duping people.
I am not at risk of this cunning behaviour, I don't easily fall for things like that.
It is not bad thing to admire people some that are doing well maybe financially and other , but it bad to admire the wrong people ,thank you for sharing, this is a parable
The problem is identifying the wrong people, we definitely can't do that without knowing them properly and that's the problem.
There should be a big deal with admiring people as long as we aren't influenced by them negatively.
Yeah that is really true
This is me too.
What people do for money can be shocking when they are brought to light. Just imagine a family man duping his fellow humans to make his family happy, not knowing he is creating unending trouble for himself and his family.
This adage is just wisdom.
There are lots of adage I would have love to use in the post regarding this topic. Some times people think they are doing what's right just because there is a good side to them.
Hurting people to please oneself is definitely not a good thing, they might be happy initially but this won't end well.
After his last arrest, he sold his cars and things haven't been the same. I won't be surprised if his children start involving themselves in dirty things just to keep up with their lifestyle.
I love adages because of the meanings one derive in them. I wish you added more but this one you used is impactful.
I hope he turns a new leaf and accept whatever way life present itself to him. For his children, I do hope they don't follow their dad's evil way even when the possiblity is high.
I hope too because they are females, it wouldn't make any sense if they get caught up in their father's mess.
Right...
This is a reminder that we are in competition with only ourselves. Thank you for sharing
You are right bro, We are not in competition with anyone so it's better we just focus on ourselves.
We all desire good things in life and it normal to admire people base on what they have. I don't think is good to pretend rich while you are poor, that's fake life
It's pointless pretending because no matter how much we do that, we will remain what we are.
Pretending doesn't change reality.
Yes that's the fact
I feel so sorry that you were seen in a bad light afterwards. But I don't see how any of it was your fault. You never know how it really is from the outside looking in and it's good you were simply platonic with him.
Yeah, I wasn't at fault. They didn't want the man's secret exposed so they made it look like he was arrested for no reason and it wouldn't have happened if I didn't let them in.
Happy weekend.
Imagine them condoning evil.
Happy weekend to you too dear🌺
You see that Yoruba adage is what I hold on strongly and held in my heart. No one can oppress me at all because I know someday, if I am not lazy, I will achieve more than that. People are just so mean and cruel to do dubious and wicked things just to make a name and wealth for themselves. In the end, they implicate their family members too. Imagine the man now, what will people think of the children?
I wonder how they spend their wealth comfortably knowing very well that they made someone cry in the process of getting it.
That is why they say don't say, God bless me like so so person because the root of someone wealth might not be pure.
Praying for other people blessing really doesn't make sense, it is best we pray for what we deserve and work towards achieving it as well.
Chai... Having such a neighbor is just not cool at all. Such people don't even try to hide the fact that their money is dirty, they flaunt their wealth at whatever chance they get. This is why we just have to be careful about what we hunger for, if we don't know then we really don't know!
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I think people have secretes all the time. It's really hard to understand one person and trust them. As well as I can understand that person was not a good person.
what does it mean?